Am Lost in What to do

Anonymous

Am Lost in What to do

Hi, this is extremely hard for me to know as to what to do and am after positive advice please as emotionally and mentally this is a difficult situation.
I have been in a relationship with a 30 year old half indigenous man for 2 years now, I am 42. For about the last 18 months he has been verbally abusive. He also goes through my phone and questions every message I get too. He calls me dumb, asks me if I'm stupid and also tells me I'm a dumb white c*#t too.
Last November he went to a family Birthday function and was extremely drunk. I went and picked him up and a couple of his relations and dropped them home. I thought he was going to stay there but he wanted McDonald's and go to the pub still. From dropping off his relatives at 12:30am till approx 5:30am I put up with alot of physical violence from hitting across the face and head, pulling of my hair and the being hit with a phone charger chord approx. 50 times.

I filed a DV order, we went to Court and he recieved 5 years Good Behaviour. We are still seeing each other and he was good but now he has said I need to give his 2 young children $20 here or there. He gets paid every fortnight but he gambles the whole lot then relies on me financially. He told me I need to change, stop whinging and accommodate more for his kids . I love him but dont know whether to let him go or keep trying to work it out.

Thankyou all for any help and advice you can offer xx

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Anonymous

It amazes me how women get themselves into these situations. What a joke.

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Anonymous

You’re 42 years old, why would you put up with this shit?
Being half indigenous, not sure what that has to do with anything, people are people, abusive or not abusive.
Find someone who treats you as you deserve or be alone and content living peacefully xxxx

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Anonymous

Not sure what his heritage has to do with anything 🤔

Love is irrelevant, he's toxic, dangerous and taking advantage of you. Know your worth and drop this dude like the POS he is!

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Anonymous

This is nearly as bad as the “Christian” abusive partner post from 2 days ago. Got to wonder if it’s a troll.

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Anonymous

You need to leave and let him go! But what does him being half indigenous have to do with this??

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Anonymous

Honey please find the strength to walk away. If your struggling to find the courage I highly recommend seeing a family violence counsellor who can suppirt you through the process of leaving including your grief over the ended realtionship. The family violence deoartment atbthe police station can either make a referral with a support service or they should be able to direct you to someone in the area. You deserve so much better and I truely believe you kknow you do too hence why you are reaching out for help.

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