What can I do?

Anonymous

What can I do?

My son comes home from his dads stinking like smoke. At first it was really bad. I brought it up with his dad and it stopped. Apparently it's all 3rd hand smoke. His whole family smoke in the house when he's not there but the smell gets all through his bag and in his hair and I can't understand how it could be so bad if they aren't smoking around him. His dad smokes chop chop and it stinks worse then legal tobacco. Sometimes I need to wash his stuff twice to get the smell out. It did stop but now he has come back stinking again and it smells like weed this time. What can I do? It's not only a health risk to our son but it's making me sick aswell.

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Anonymous

That’s not 3rd hand smoke. If you stink of it that bad someone is doing it right next to you. SS mum is a smoker but the only time he ever smells of it is if she has had one whilst he was was in her company. I wouldn’t be returning my child to their company until you have attended mediation to discuss and warn his father you will be reporting him if it happens again.

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Anonymous

To come home stinking strongly of weed/tobacco means someone is smoking it in his vicinity.
3rd hand smoke might leave a mild stale stench, but if that smell is so strong you need 2 washes to get it out, I call bullshit about them not smoking in the house while he's present.

I wouldn't be sending him back til it's addressed, I'd start the mediation process now!

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Anonymous

Document document document! Keep notes (even on your phone calendar) of all the times it happens and all the times you’ve brought it up with the other parent. Even if it’s just ‘smells like smoke 2x washing, told other parent’(verbally/txt msg/email)with the date.
Then find a solicitor (legal aid may be an option) and start mediation, in the meantime try and limit visitation, take the child to a GP and have their chest/lungs checked out so it’s on file there too.

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Anonymous

Don't send him back until you have a parenting plan stating no smoking in the house or car when your son is in it.

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Anonymous

How old
Is your son? To smell so strongly off it I would think your son could be smoking..

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