Mothers of tween daughters

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Mothers of tween daughters

My eldest daughter turns 10 this year.
I had a horrible relationship with my mum from 7-20 years of age so I know what NOT to do, but still find myself at a loss of how to remain connected to my beautiful daughter during this time of growth for her.

We spend 1:1 time together and family time, but out of her dad and I, I am the ‘rule’ parent and tend to set the boundaries etc.

I do admit I’ve struggled with the thought of my baby growing up, but I’m so proud of her 💚

Mums of daughters- please share your words of wisdom. How did you stay emotionally and psychologically connected to your girls as they started their tween and teen years?
Anything you’d avoid if given the opportunity again?

Thanks :)

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Anonymous

I read a note on a friends fridge the other day that for kids to be connected they need 8 meaningful touches a day (more if they're more frayed) and the most important time to build a connection is the first 3 minutes when they wake up, 3 minutes when they get in from school and 3 minutes before they go to bed.
That resonated with me because still when i think about my mum who I have no connection with, I think about her waking me up shouting at me and absolutely hating getting trapped in a car with her anywhere but especially to or from school so I think there's some truth in that suggestion.

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