I hope someone can help me, I’m not good at opening up with my feelings and emotions( it was how I was brought up) and my husband is getting sick of it, I do try and talk about stuff but I normally just bottle it up and then explode when something has really pissed me off. I know it’s not healthy and I need to change for my self and my family
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Hi Hun, it’s so hard to change something about yourself and how you deal with emotions. I am also like this. It’s frustrating for me and my partner and I’m trying really hard to work on it. However I can’t always walk away and punch a punching bag or just get away from the kids when they keep just pushing and pushing and making it worse. I’ve been thinking about doing an anger management course becasue parenting courses are all based on mostly neuro typical kids not SN kids. I have both. I’ve done 2 parenting courses and neither of them were useful to me. I know my advice probably isn’t useful but I wanted to know you’re not alone.
I’m similar. And I find the easiest way for me to get something out, is either write it out and send it in a text message. Or just message and say “we need to talk about such and such”... I find it incredibly hard to blurt out aloud the very beginning of an issue.
I also find writing out a text or letter, gets everything out in the open. You don’t forget any points you needed to address, there is no chance for them to step in and you forget your train of thought. And they get the whole cat and cabootal in one hit. THEN you know you need to talk it aloud to them to hear their point... or, if they prefer, write back.
I often think it feels a bit childish, but I’d rather this alternative then to keep beating around the bush and worry myself sick about how I’m going to blurt it all out and not forget important points ect