If your husband has an Instagram page that they keep secret to the point they block you from it because you put through a follow request do you think you have a right to be concerned that they are doing something wrong. And then when you ask them about why they block you they accuse you of being controlling And tell you to fuck off
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I'm concerned you even need to ask this. Of course it's concerning and he's hiding something.
Absolutely! Wouldn’t trust him
Unless you are controlling and he feels he always needs to tell you and show you everything he is doing. Or that you'll blow up if he liked or followed someone you weren't keen on. Then maybe it's okay..
I was going to say this.
I know many people where the shoe is on the other foot so to speak - they 'have' to have secret social media accounts because their partners are jealous, possessive, controlling and have no respect for their privacy .
Either way, if he's being secretive because he's hiding something or if he's being secretive because he really does feel you're controlling, that's unhealthy and I think it points to a really big problem within your relationship!
This post has red flags screaming all over it. He’s clearly up to no good.
I am the OP. I really don’t have any issue that he has the account. And I only found it when I created an account as I had never had one to check what my teenage daughter was posting as some of my friends had expressed concern. His account came up as a suggestion from my contacts so I sent a follow request. I in now way did it to control anything just because it’s the normal thing we would do. My concern came from the lengths he went to to keep me from seeing it. This is a very new thing to happen between us until now we have ... or at least I thought ... we have shared everything.
When I asked what he was doing on there that it needed to be a secret he lost his shit which made me super suspicious. I don’t actually really want to see the account I more want to understand why he reacted like he was doing something he needs to hide when I asked him about it.
And now his defences are up how do I discuss with him how his actions make me feel
So was it a hidden/secret account or was it that you just didn't know he was using Instagram? As my hubby would have no clue what apps I was and wasn't using :/
It's easy to block someone on insta so I don't think he's gone to great lengths. But it's weird he has blocked you.
OP here at first it was I didn’t know it existed. I agree with you there is nothing to that. Then when I said I got an account and sent a follow request he said I know I deleted it and blocked you. It’s my secret what I do on there. And I said oh I find that very hurtful and he said I wasn’t getting on there so I could just fuck off and lost his shit. It’s the behaviour he exhibited when asked that makes me question what is actually on there
OP here at first it was I didn’t know it existed. I agree with you there is nothing to that. Then when I said I got an account and sent a follow request he said I know I deleted it and blocked you. It’s my secret what I do on there. And I said oh I find that very hurtful and he said I wasn’t getting on there so I could just fuck off and lost his shit. It’s the behaviour he exhibited when asked that makes me question what is actually on there
Is it possible he feels like you only started your own Insta account to "check up" on him so to speak? Perhaps he felt mistrusted?
Look, I know that's probably a stretch but it is worth considering this from all perspectives before you pack his shit and kick him out (because you are going to get so many suggestions to do just that).
Maybe wait for this all to calm down a bit then try and have logical convo with him about it, if he still doesn't have a reasonable explanation for his irrational outburst (which I think is the real issue here - not whether or not you guys follow each other on social media) then I think I'd be starting to question what's really going on.
Ok I know nothing about instagram and how it works but was wondering if your daughter and he are connected on instagram. If they are I'd be a lot less concerned about what's going on but his reaction does seem over the top and like he's trying to hide something
No they are not connected. He stated he is not connected to anayone I know so why would I even want to follow him in the outburst.
Where there's wind there's fire ! He is lying about it end of ! Get caught out and call you Crazy pure lies if he has nothing to hide then why the big drama
He's up to no good, it will be a hook up account. Get out while you can.
I would be setting up a fake profile or getting a friend to add him to see what is really going on since he isn't being mature enough to show you or talk about it. Definitely sounds suspicious to me.
Create a fake profile, use a hot girl image, and then try and friend him. Yes it’s deceptive but you already don’t trust what he is doing at least this way you can see what he is up to. Then You decide what to do with what ever you find. Sounds diss, next option get snap chat and see if he is on there too? That will scream volumes. And if you really think he is being dodgy google him, every profile in his name will come up.
He’s hiding something!!! What a pig to tell you to fuck off. Why would be block his wife.? Set up another one add some fake sexy pics and start chatting.. I’m sure you’ll get your answer.
try and hack his password and get into his private messages.. if he hasn’t nothin to hide why react that way. He’s up to something!
Get that fake account. Started ASAP.. I’m sure you will find out what he is upto. I would want to know if it was me.
Red flags are a flapping!! My ex husband had a Facebook account I wasn't aware of and found after we separated.
I’d be saying F off and don’t come back if it were me. I would never accept my partner doing this to me for simply asking to follow. Why on earth wouldn’t they want you tonif they were innocent
Post his instagram account and I'll check it out for you
I agree. Post it and we shall check it out for you and report back!
Create a fake account of a young beautiful woman, try to follow him see if he accepts and there’s your answer. Really concerned that you aren’t allowed to follow him and his behavior about it isn’t normal