How do you deal with the abusive ex randomly just popping into your life? We have children he doesn’t see. There’s no financial support & he is not a parent who should be a role model for any child.
He’s immature, he plays stupid mind games, and is very narcissistic.
The issue is my anxiety when there is contact. I live interstate now. I’m a completely different person, I have a great life & am extremely content with who I am. But one stupid text and I go into hyper awareness. I don’t sleep, I start visualising different scenarios of him turning up, I make escape plans in my head...
Is this normal? It’s already been going on for years, does this ever stop, or is it just part of who I am now?
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I think to get passsed it you might need some counseling or speak to your gp especially since it’s been years and you still can’t shake the anxiety
It sounds like you have PTSD, I have it too after a DV marriage. It can have varying degrees and is easily managed with the right mental health help. A good place to start is your GP who may be able to refer you to see someone and you’ll get either 6 or 10 sessions for free, I can’t temember how many but it’s so worth looking into
It is post traumatic stress. I had it too from a toxic relationship. See a psychologist and ask for emdr therapy, that's what helped me. Xxoo hugs and kisses.
Thanks for the replies. It’s been nearly 8 years. I just wanted to know that I’m not the only one I guess.