Has anyone ever met anyone or themselves (males) had an issue with "getting themself off".
My husband has basically never been able to masturbate and ejaculate/orgasm himself, I've always had to do it for him.
It's never been an issue until now as its been a weekly thing but now it's turned to a daily thing. Once he gets the urge it consumes him and is painful until he ejaculates. It's to the point where he can't see me naked, hug me or even touch me without getting the overwhelming urge to get off.
He's on medication for severe anxiety but I think theres more to it whether it be bipolar or personality disorder. Doctors are laughing it off and not taking him seriously.
We're getting a referral to a psychiatrist but we can't find any information regarding it. I'm beginning to feel used just for my body. It consumes him everyday lately to the point he can't function and triggers his anxiety.
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I think this is a psychological thing. Does he see masturbating himself as dirty? Was he raised in a strict religious house? Abused? I think you're taking the right steps for help but I'm not sure I'd be finishing him and feeding it. I'd be lovingly explaining that if you're seeking a healthy sex life, part of that involves creating it and sexual activity will be mutually desired and mutually satisfying. Acknowledge his other issues and reinforce that you're supporting him in getting help and stepping back from 'helping' is your way of not fostering what you're seeking to manage.
I was wondering same thing
Hypersexual, I think you’re on the money, look into bipolar.