My hubby has recently changed his mind and wants to move back to his hometown to be closer to family rather than move back to a different city, but I do not want to return there as I was never really happy there. We have been living interstate for a number of years and have a child together.
He believes every reason i give isn't good enough and that i am not supporting him as i should be after he moved with me interstate. This has put a big strain on our relationship and my anxiety. I fully support him to pursue what he wants to do up there if he wants to go but I do not want to move there and i wouldn't let my child go there without me. Every time we talk about this i am made to feel selfish and that I'm not being supportive of him which is far from it.
I've tried suggesting that he go and we move as we had originally had planned and he could move down to us when he reaches his goal which gets shut down immediately. I understand that this is not ideal for him to be away from us for so long but i have stated on many occasions that i didn't want to return there. Ive tried to compromise with the location and it seems is his way or no way at all.
I had bad experiences at work up there with being bullied by people i work with so i don't want to put myself in that situation again. Am I being selfish or unreasonable?