The Sisterhood Is STRONG


I have just started to be contacted by media outlets who would like to cover my story.  I am totally floored, overwhelmed, humbled excited and proud, of what has transpired on this blog..... I feel like it’s a great opportunity to get the message out that there are thousands of women who have a story just like mine - I am just one of many. It is a subject that needs to be spoken about…

Nothing will change - this story will transpire the way it is meant to.  It is Titan’s story and I have to honour the path it is taking.  If he can help others in their time of grief that is good.  This sisterhood will be strong - yes it may get bigger but most of all THE MOST IMPORTANT thing is it remains strong… this is for all of us!  I have had many signs from Titan in the last couple of days… It is all good!

I’m unsure of what will happen tomorrow, like us all, but I thought I would talk about a couple of things that you can subscribe to this blog or find me….

I want to talk to you about RSS feeds… please don’t worry if you have no Idea what it is because neither did I… Here is an article about it if you would like to read.

The other way you can contact me is Google+. Here is an article on that……

I want to Thank You all for all of your overwhelming response. I feel like I have had the biggest - MOST Biggest Hug in the last week.. Thank you for connecting with me, I am truly honoured to hear all of your stories… But I had to post and tell you that you may see me in other places, but I am still just me, I am Titan’s Mum.  I am only Me and nothing will change except the volume may get turned up a bit but that is good….

I dreamed about creating this blog to help others, to create a sisterhood of Women who may not know each other yet support one another.. Thank YOU for engaging in it... Titan finally has a voice. It is his journey and I’m honouring the course it is taking…

Thank You


About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

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28 Replies

Jodie Thompson

It all makes sense. Jump in, take every opportunity that interests you - it's all good!

The Imperfect Mum

Thank YOU Jodie my Blogger friend I REALLY appreciate those very kind words I needed them... THANKYOU XXXXX


We'll be seeing you on ALL the morning shows- including Kerri-anne-haha- get used to it GIRLF x

The Imperfect Mum

Ha Ha - Thanks xx


Makes perfect sense Kristy. You are still you even if we see you on tv or in the papers.
You have had the courage to talk about it and help others through the grief as well.
Good on you and don't start doubting yourself.
Big hugs from one Imperfect mum to another. XOXOXO

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhhh Thank YOU Yes this doubting thing is a MAJOR issue for me.... I do it way too much... FEAR is my worst enemy....I'm tying to tackle it head on... One day I wont care... I hope so anyway!!! Thank YOU Guest I don't know your name but those words saved me xxxxx

Strife Survivor

Congratulations Kristy! I am not surprised media outlets have begun to contact you - your powerful, touching, heartbreaking and amazing words have created quite a storm and your message is one that so many mothers, fathers, aunts, sisters, brothers, cousins, and best friends can relate to - because most people do know someone who has suffered the terrible loss of a child, miscarriage or stillbirth - and most people don't know what to say or what to do for that person. Nothing they can say will make it better, so they don't say anything. And the person who has suffered the loss, suffers in silence, alone, because no one understands. Your blog has not only given Titan a voice, it has given those people someone who understands. Someone they can share with and relate to. And as more people come forward to share and relate, they can begin to heal... You are a remarkable, brave and caring person, taking the time to thank and thoughtfully respond to each person who comments on your blog and page. I can't wait to read your next installment and am honoured that you are sharing this journey with us!

The Imperfect Mum

Thank YOU Michelle, You are such an AMAZING friend to me... you know me so well..... This is VERY daunting and frankly scary!! I suppose it is a normal reaction..... Thank you for your kind words.....

Kelly De Vries

Awww, Michelle that was wonderful writing! So true! x

Carolyn Chambers

Go for it, you'll tell the story of Titan and your family beautifully. I know there are people in this world who won't realise others have had this happen because we don't talk about neonatal death it's too taboo and makes people uncomfortable.
People need to be aware that it happens, you never forget your baby no matter how many weeks you loose them, a piece of your heart is taken with your baby but with grief, time and support life keeps on rolling. I know my family wouldn't have healed if I didn't prepare them for the huge effect my nieces passing would have on them. It's important to talk and to make memory boxes for when the day comes when parents or relatives can open it and see their angels possessions, that makes the dark skies a little brighter with their shining star.
Carolyn Chambers.

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh Carolyn - THANK YOU!!! Yes - I agree this is a subject that MUST be talked about!! I love you analogy at the end - BEAUTIFUL XXXX Thanks Again xxx


What did I say to you over 15yrs ago Miss??? "I'm really surprised that you aren't famous as you are someone that people just want to meet and hang out with and listen to...", now you laughed it off all those years ago but I clearly knew what the go was haha.
What an amazing offer and oportunity for you, Media only have interest in what "the buzz" is and you and your story are clearly what "the buzz" is about and they know that it is such an interesting subject to talk about as there are so many mothers out there and you can be the voice on behalf of these other Mummys.
You go for it, have zero doubt about it, you know first hand what it is like to loose a child and also bringing up have the voice, USE IT!
Proud of you...
ps. wait, do I get a finders fee from all those years ago? ha
Love you x

The Imperfect Mum

Your a classic!!!! - YOU made me laugh .... and I REALLY needed it too ... so thanks for that... you know me though.. DOUBT.... I'm trying to get rid of him but he does come and sit on my shoulder quite often- This is just a process and typing helps me deal with it....THANK YOU !!! LOVE YOU TOO XX


Good for you Kristy. This is a subject that has been swept under the carpet for way too long, because as someone else said it makes people uncomfortable. You are giving Mums like us a voice.
I dont know you but I wish I did, I wish I had a friend like you close by, because you are truly an amazing person as is evident in comments from your friends and family and your caring attitutude to others you dont even know. The universe works in mysterious ways Kristy and
As Michelle says; your powerful, touching, heartbreaking and amazing words have created quite a storm! You have opened the flood gates girlfriend and its time your time to ride the wave! xx

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh Georga - YOU JUST MADE ME CRY!!! Your story really resonated with me too! - You do have a friend like me... I am here typing to you! - we may have never met.. but we have connected.. I do believe the universe works it mysterious ways... I really appreciate your kind words xxxxxxxxxx


The sisterhood is strong and I hope you find continued support here.

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks Trish - I appreciate your words - In honor of our Angels in Heaven xxxx

Carol TH

If it wasn't for Titan's short visit, for you & your husband's gift, none of us would be here. Doubt is what sits on your shoulder to make sure that what you do is you being the best that you can be.
By allowing us to walk in your shoes on this journey, you help of all us to be stronger as well. Thank you for this!! BRAVO on your doubt - use it to be stronger & the best that you can be!!
I'll be here cheering you on ;)

The Imperfect Mum

Yep - You are so right! - Titan is helping me get rid of that doubt fellow he is helping me face my fears.... Carol... your so beautiful!

Abi Gardiner

I think this is a good move! There are a lot of women out there that have not found your blog or even thought to look, seeing you and hearing your story may give them the courage to speak up about their story, and help them get started on their own healing! Go for it! And have faith in your self and the help you are offering all mothers and fathers who have felt this same pain!

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks so much Abi - I want this to be a healing place, I want it to be a place where people can come and be them... It is so important to me..... This is just one of those times that you have to get through... I know this is apart of my journey... I just have to take a deep breath.... all good!!!!


Do not be afraid, be proud! It is wonderful that others are being helped by you and that there is now alarger net being cast to help mummies further afield who are not on fb or the net and use more traditional media. You are doing wonderful things helping women out there realise they are not alone with their feelings, sadness, loneliness and many other feelings they are experiencing. We are so proud to be your friend. I would imagine there "may" be some people out there who feel the need to criticise for some reason...only they will ever know why BUT if they do, stand proud and remember you cannot change the way they are, just how you react..take on board all our love and support and go out there bravely. mwah. xxxx

The Imperfect Mum

Thank you... I'm not sure what I'm feeling their are lots of mixed emotions.. I probably just need a REALLY good nights sleep... I appreciate your support Shelley.... You are such a good friend xxx

Kelly De Vries

Oh, how exciting Kristy!! What great news that you get to spread your wings (and love!) a little further and get Titans voice out there! And what a beautiful voice he has!!!

All you need to do is be yourself! Because who you are is so beautiful! And the world deserves to see that. You are that ray of sunshine! You have given a voice to so many other mothers, most of which have been trapped in such a sad lonely place.

Thank-you for uniting us all and go get 'em girl!!!! We're right behind ya! xoxox

The Imperfect Mum

Thank you geez feeling very energised now... oh feelin the love... Wow thank you xxxxx


Hi Kristy, I'm such a fan! I'm a fan of TIM on Facebook and I love love love this amazing blog.
I'm a freelance proofreader and editor and wanted to offer my services to you if/when you get to a stage where you need them. I feel so strongly about what you're doing and saying and it's a very personal thing for me. I totally agree that there needs to be more discussion. You can contact/message me through Facebook (Jacquie Lee) if you want. Looking forward to reading more of your posts. You are an amazing woman!

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh Thanks Jacs - What a lovely offer - If I ever need anything done I will be in contact! - Thanks Jacs xx


You're so welcome.