A Quick 5 Step Manifesto on how to live a fulfilled life.

1. Turn your inner voice up

Turn it up REAL LOUD! Listen to your own thoughts and your own feeling on matters. Dull the chattering voices, you don’t need to look to others to hear what have to say. It’s time to start looking within. The voice is there, it may be quiet, you just need to practice listening to it, this may take time, but honestly practice listening, it will get louder the more you listen. xx

2. Don’t compare yourself with others

It’s really easy to get caught up other peoples successes, The problem with comparison it that is you start to doubt yourself; and you start to pick yourself apart. They are them you are you. Don’t sell yourself short by comparing yourself to them.

3. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover

Be respectful to everyone you meet. You can not possibly know someone from a 2 minute encounter. You can not assume they are not worthy of your time because they are different to you; or people that you normally spend time with. You never know, this person may be in your life to teach you something, or you may have just met a new friend.

4. Activley practice Self Care

Self-care covers a broad range of behaviours and activities, designed to enhance and nurture your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.

Self care means different things to different people. There is no set formula of what you “should” be doing in order to take care of yourself. The only ‘should’ about these activities is that they be things that you engage in regularly and that they edify and lift you up! – Read more about Self Care here


I honestly believe this is THE MOST important point. Be Honest, Be Real! Whatever you do don’t try to be someone else. Humans have a great inbuilt bullshit detector and it comes off as insincere.- That’s why it’s easier to just be You! And once you really settle into being you and listening to your own voice, people will be drawn to you because you will be comfortable in your own skin.

Image taken by Amy

Have you got any points to add? I would love to grow this list so please share other points. xx

About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

Posted in:  Life Lessons, Self Care

7 Replies

Lara Edwards

My beautiful friend, Teniell has told me that her outlook is to see life as a journey of lessons and to be open to these lessons as they arise throughout life. To learn is to grow and we shouldn't live our lives as though we have nothing new to learn. I think pushing yourself out of your comfort zone occasionally can be very fullfilling as you encounter challenges and new interests that you otherwise may never have known. Moral of the story - be true to you but also open to others and to new opportunities. I think you pretty much covered that in there in a roundabout way but thought I'd share as my friend that told me this helped me grow personally by sharing these thoughts with me. I love this list as I think sometimes in this busy world we need to be reminded of how to tap into our souls and how to really enjoy our lives. It can be so easy to coast along just existing when we should be living and thriving! Imperfect Mum - you rock!


Great story!

The Imperfect Mum

Thank you :)

The Imperfect Mum

I love what you wrote Lara, I would agree with every single word! THANKYOU x

Lara Edwards

No, thank you ;) xo

Ben Vallely

Great Post! X

The Imperfect Mum

Well there you go, you do read my blog! First time commenting, not too bad after 2 years darling xx