I remember looking up to my mum, with tears in my eyes. She bent down and said. ”Kristy you will only ever have 5 friends” in your life, as in ‘real’ ones. Your heart will break many times, this is life”.
She then went on to explain it in a deeper scale. I can’t recall exactly what she said. But that moment has stuck with me for ever. And I have come to terms with the fact, that she was soooo right.
Maybe I have a couple more than that. But I completly “get” what she was saying. And that’s ok. I believe people come into your life for certain “reasons” as in they are their for a purpose and once you have learned what you need too, they are gone..
I don’t look back on those relationships that have gone and feel sad we are still ‘friends’ just not real ones..
THE BEST time to find out who your real ones are, is when you completely fuck up or your life goes to shit and they’re are still by your side, rubbing your back and saying “you know what, things will be ok!
I have had many different friends through different stages in my life. The only ones that I have found to be terribly toxic and heartbreaking are the people that use you as a step, i.e the ”social climber ones” .. hmmm I think we have all encountered those people.
If you haven’t yet, you will!. I guarantee it! As soon as you get that feeling that they maybe the case – Stay the hell away! – They are only there for one reason, and one reason only. – Rant over.. sorry…. back to the story..
A few times in my life when I have really have had no-one, as in, no-one “near by” For various reasons, people moving away.. social situations changing… having kids.. relationships fizzing out.. They were lonely times. Althoughthose were the times when I have grown the most.. Made me who I am today. I wouldn’t change those times for a moment. ”
The reason for this post is that I want people to know the truth. Look, please don’t get me wrong I have been blessed with some very deep and rich friendships and I thank god for that. But one thing I think is important, is to bear in mind the fact that people may come and go.
Friendships do change but that is ok! – It’s ok to keep some forever and it’s ok to wave some goodbye. It is essential to know when to walk away, Don’t hold onto something that is dead or toxic it’s no good for all concerned.
Life is about learning lessons and sometimes the hardest lessons are the ones that break your heart. Change you, make you grow more than you ever have.