Being kind doesn’t ‘cost’ you anything

I want to share a story with you all.  One, that I would like you to ponder and think on a deeper level about.

You may have seen yesterday that there was a question posted about prostitution.  The questioner was in a desperate situation where she was 3 weeks behind in rent and the prospect of being kicked out on the street was very real.

She had two school aged children and a part time job however ends were not meeting and she was really struggling with her rent.  She lives in a mining town where rent was through the roof.

I was very impressed by the thread as most people were supportive of the questioners situation.  Some where offering alternative ideas some where just offering comforting advice. All in all, it was a fairly (surprisingly) ok thread.

Kelly was looking after the page yesterday.  And for those who haven’t heard me speak of her or for those that haven’t had the privilege to chat with her I will explain something very fundamental about her as a person.

She is a devout Christian.  Goes to church every Sunday.  Prays to god everyday.  God is her best friend.  Christianity does not define her as a person and by saying the above I was meaning to put her in a box.

The reason I wanted to share that is because I think that gives you an insight into the kind of person she is.

Yes, she is a Christian who would never dream of doing this kind of work but…

Did she judge her? Did she turn her away?

This is what she wrote back to her.

“Reposted – with big hugs. I hope that someone is able to give you a helpful response.I would also hope that there are organisations out there that would help you before you would have to resort to this kind of dangerous work… are you in Australia? Hope to hear from you xKelly”

I think we can all learn something from this story and the kind of person Kelly is.    Kelly’s response shows such humility.  Shows that she cares so much for this fellow human.

I think as a society we have become so wrapped up in ourselves and our circumstance we don’t think at a deeper level or at any level for that matter, about those around us.

How about we give support and show love.  It’s free and doesn’t cost you anything..

This place is a place where we do not judge it’s a place where we support.  We help this sister receive the information she needs in order to make informed choices.

I personally at the deepest level of my soul would rather see her move forward without having to do that line of work.  But you know what? I would also rather see her keep her kids off the street and keep them fed and safe.

The moment you show someone love even if its a stranger; you could save their life.  Save the lives of their children.

Next time you go judge another human try to remember you don’t know their story.  You don’t know events surrounding their life.  You don’t know why they have found themselves in that situation.

Look through kind eyes rather than eyes of judgement. – Being kind does not cost you anything!

Kristy xx

About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

Posted in:  Life Lessons

13 Replies

Alanna Kelly

This post reminded me how amazing women are! <3

Lara Nettle

I'd like to help.

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks so much Lara. Can you message the page just so we can deal with this privately. thanks x

Cindy Bosse

Id like to help

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks Cindy. Is it ok for you to message the page so we can chat privately. xx

Caroline Abrahams

Count me in

The Imperfect Mum

Hey Carloline, Thanks so much can you message the page so we can chat privately about this. xx

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks beautifuls - Can you message the page so we can do this privately I should have said that instead. Duh!


Am struggling myself but would love to help if I can

The Imperfect Mum

Wow, so beautiful of you. please message the page we need to do this privately.

Carolyn @ Champagne Cartel

What beautiful words! And what a beautiful person Kelly clearly is. You are so right - we often spend a lot of energy trying to protect ourselves and ensure we don't look stupid/desperate/over-eager/like we're butting in - when really a few kind words would probably make someone else's day. I missed yesterday's post but this mum must love her kids a whole lot. You are great to be helping her out as you are. xx

The Imperfect Mum

Thank You @carolyn_tate:disqus XX

Kate Gough

So, where do we "share our surplus" as the Bible directs? I am sure that each of us genuinely WANT to make a difference to this Mumma but are not quite sure how (I read this IM's post and was completely unsure of how to react without reflecting pity or insincerity - I genuinely felt moved to help her and her family but was almost reflexively paralysed in reaction) the BIG question for the Imperfect Mum is... what about other IM's who are going through similar circumstances? This places a great onus on your sholders IM...I can't imagine where you will go from here but I wish you the best. Meantime, have we got an account for this IM that we put money into or is it a case by case basis? Much love and strength and light. <3