7 Ways to say See-Ya to Stress

Since writing my article about not coping with life, I have tried to make things a little more ok,  by doing things a little differently.

I realised one of my BIGGEST issue’s was stress.  I am still struggling with it today, but I’m working on some changes here they are .

1.  Make your home a peaceful environment
Having “stuff” everywhere is EXTREMLY overwhelming it clouds your mind which makes it extremely hard to concentrate it’s like you are living in a daze.  My beautiful husband is a little bit of a hoarder.  He is actively trying to change his ways but in the mean-time he has the space under the house.
This gives me the clean living space that I need upstairs.   I like to go around with a big black plastic bag once a week and de-clutter I just look around at anything that is cluttering up the room I either get rid of it or find a better place.  Doing this once a week helps to keep the environment peaceful, it’s like the energy moves better

2.  Affirmations.
Every morning I am coming up with just a couple of sentences it depends on what you are trying to achieve once you work that out, it will then help you structure your affirmation/mantra they can be simple like these
“Today will be a beautiful day filled with laughter”  “I am a strong woman who can get through this” repeat and breath in, breath out, then repeat..

 3.  Relaxation.
This is different for every individual for me it’s laying in a snuggly bed reading a book, sitting in the sun, laughing out loud, dancing, being silly, taking a rest, catching up with friends, for you it may be different but  whatever it is, try and do it at least once a day.  Even if it’s just 10 mins.

4.1 thing at a time  
This is something I have had to train myself in, it does not come naturally to me AT ALL!  my mind does like to jump like a rabbit  so I really need to concentrate.  I am forever saying to myself  ” finish this first BEFORE you move on to the next thing”.  I have been doing this for a couple of years now so it is becoming easier.  This is a very quick and effective way to reduce the feeling like you are never getting anything done which can amount to un wanted stress.

5.  Have FUN
This is a MUST – insert a little happy into your life and the best way to do that is to take your parent/adult hat off.  Dance in the morning.  Pull silly faces.  Sing loudly.  Play Music. My husband and I actually say “Bing” and the other says “Bing” back.   That’s our little bright button.  It makes us laugh.  And that’s the point, just because you’re an adult does not mean you can’t have fun and sometimes being silly makes you have fun even when you’re not in the mood.

6.  Time by yourself
I know, I know, it’s very difficult as a parent to have time by yourself but even if it’s 10 minutes a day – that’s fine!  Sometimes that is all you need. It may mean that you have to be very strict with your bed time routine so that it allows you that peace and quiet in the evening.

7.  Work on your relationship with your partner
When was the last time you sat opposite your other half and had a conversation? Not about bills or things you “have to do”, or about the kids.  Just a normal conversation about life you know the ones you have with friends.  Sometimes you need to re-connect as friends it’s very easy to lose that when life gets busy.  Sometimes you just need to put the effort in.  It may mean going out to dinner that way there are no distractions.  You have to sit there and talk.  Re-connecting is the best feeling in the world, it reminds you of why you are with that person. It re-builds that bond. The best part is that you’re demonstrating a good healthy relationship to your kids.

Is there any points you would like to add? I would LOVE to hear them!


About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

Posted in:  Life Lessons, Mental Health, Self Care

7 Replies

Anji Young

Fantastic hints....you sound like me. On the relationship side of things (cos' we all know that if Mum & Dad are happy and relaxed then so is the rest of the household) my partner has joined Roller Derby with me (he will ref) and we take both of our children and it is SO GOOD doing something purely unnecessary just for the fun of it together - feels like the old pre-children days (even though they're running madly around the outside of the rink playing) Do something together! Play tennis, handball, soccer WHATEVER. Sitting down to a nice dinner alone is all well and good but you don't interact nearly as well as you do when you are PLAYING with your husband or wife....give it a go!

The Imperfect Mum

Ohh I LOVE this Anji - that is the coolest idea! - You should send us a photo in of all of you at Roller Derby! - That we be awesome to put on the page! XX

kirri white

Yes! It's all in the little things -simplifying, being mindful and knowing what works for you. Regular exercise, meditation and FUN are prerequisites for me....and fun is what I am most lacking at the moment. Too much work and too little play (I'm going to do something about that this weekend!).

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks Kirri - wished you lived closer would love to have some wine with you! X


I like the affirmation one. Not up to saying it today but. You see I asked my partner if he loved me. He couldn't answer. So after 13 years that's it.

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh Darlin, you poor thing! - Sending you love!! XX


Great post. Stress Management is something I struggle with too. Love the affirmations. The other thing that helps me is going outside and just appreciatng how beautiful the world is. Even it's just in my back garden, admiring the trees. I promise I shave my armpits! I just find it really calming!