Why am I still here waiting for him to get home from his ex girlfriend

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Why am I still here waiting for him to get home from his ex girlfriend

Long story short, do you keep in touch with ex's, go out with them or enjoy celebration's with them. Me no! But my partner yes! He is currently at his ex girlfriends birthday party, we were all invited, the kids and I but to an unfriendly little person place so I tried to be nice and said I didn't want to go but if you want to it's ok. I never dreamed he would go without us. Now I regret speaking, I know how much of a connection they have. They still speak to each other everyday at length. I already know he is having an emotional affair, what else do I look for? Thanks

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Anonymous

Talk to him. He can't read your mind and if there's even a small chance your over thinking it it's worth the effort. Let him know how your being made to feel he may just not get it

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Anonymous

There are exes I keep in touch with but I'm in my 40s and not married so that is natural.
How long have you been together? You were invited, it's not like they excluded you. Have you tried being friendly with his ex? The truth is, if he wanted to be with her, he would be with her. He isn't though he chose you.
You are hurt tonight because you thought you'd trick him in to not going to the party and it didn't work. Don't play games, it doesn't work.

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Anonymous

I disagree a bit, hes with you he shouldn't be talking to her everyday, not at length, you said you know he's having an emotional affair, then you know. Don't be second best or somebodys second option. You don't need to look for anything else if you already know that.

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Anonymous

My husband tried this with one of his ex's. At first i played it cool like it didnt bother me and i was secure. Then one day he chose her over me and our daughter and i didnt really cope. I told him its me or her not both. Thank goodness he chose my and our family. The ex was told to bugger off and we havnt looked back. Sometimes men dont think about things the way women do sometimes they have to be pulled up and shown. All the best.

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Anonymous

Id like to think of myself as a pretty cruisy wife. My hubby goes out whenever he wants. Does whatever he wants. But hanging out with an ex? Hell no. Sorry but I disagree with the comments that are saying "exes can still be friends". Fact- you cannot be friends with someone who was once your whole world; someone who you were once in LOVE With. Ive tried it. I would be making him cut all ties with her and honestlu I think thats a fair call. Good luck

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