toilet training

toilet training

I am having dramas with potty training my two (nearly three) year old daughter. She will do wees and poos on the toilet if you put her on it, but unless you constantly put her on the toilet in 30 min or hourly increments she will not think to go herself and will wet or soil herself. We have tried stickers, rewards (various types) but she doesnt take herself or at the very least tell us she wants to go. She will just soil herself and continue whatever she is doing like it doesn't bother her. She knows that she should use the toilet as when we say uh oh where should this have happened she will say the toilet but she will never think to take herself or tell anyone. Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do to overcome this?
My husband and I want to try for another baby soon but dont want our daughter to not be toilet trained when another baby eventually comes along.

Please help.

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Anonymous

It doesn't sound like she has learnt what it feels like to need to go to the toilet. This issue sometimes comes up when a child is 'toilet timed' (taken at set intervals versus learning to go when they need to go. My advice stop taking her to the toilet at set intervals and start looking for the signs she NEEDS to go. Yes it requires you to be more observant. Look for signs like a hard bladder, squeezing legs together. When you see those signs prompt her to say 'I need to do wee' or similar and praise her for saying it. You could even give her a small lolly for saying it as you take her to the toilet. This way she will learn how her body should feel when it's time to go to the toilet.

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Anonymous

if that doesn't work you could look at getting a pants alarm. You can order online and they attach to the pants, when the child has a spot the alarm rings for them to go to the toilet

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Anonymous

My eldest was a bit like this.. also liked to wee/ poo in strange places/ containers! Try not to let it stress you or her too much.. She will figure it out eventually... I am sure you have tried heaps of diff methods, not sure what eventually worked for her... We did get her a toy potty that she would take her bear/ baby to , seemed to give her a bit of responsibility that wasn't focussed on her.. I think I also was taking her all the time.. eventually stopped and only suggested she go before car ride/ when I did.. Now I look back and laugh, but was so frustrating at the time.. All kids are different, she had/has very small bladder, when she had to go it was now! couldn't hold it, had to go every half hour sometimes..She also wet the bed a lot, didn't bother her, just did't wake up in time... My second pretty much sorted herself , out of nappies during day, and at night brfore 2 ! Refused to wear them at night and has ever only wet bed once! She can hold on for hours! Don't think I did anything 'better' with her , just diff. bodies, different kids! I had older one in pull ups at night for ages, little one never used them at all.... Don't worry, stay positive, try to keep sense of humour! ( Just out of curiosity, is she a fairly relaxed dreamy kid? My eldest still gets lost in daydreams, very caring, placid nature../ youngest much more full on,intense personalilty.. Good luck!

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Anonymous

As frustrating as toilet training is you just need to keep trying. We had the same problem with my son until one day it just clicked and he started taking himself. I know it's frustrating but it will all start working when she is ready. Until then keep up with what you are doing. Good luck!

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