Hi Ladies, I'm caught in two minds about starting afresh by relocating interstate. I've lived on my own with my two children for a long time. I'm 37 and feel like I'm in the prime of my life and I'm bored, lonely and so tired of living 37 years in the one area...... My personality is very outgoing, social, I love experiencing what life has to offer, but I'm dying on the inside here. To move I want to sell all of my furniture, pay out my bills, pack our clothes and go. But I'm so scared!!!! But I'm even more scared of continuing to live this life for the next 10 years. I'm suffocating with controlling family and trying to heal from an abusive relationship. I'm normally so strong I would just go for it..... but I've lost my confidence. I would appreciate any advice please. X
2 Replies
I think if there is no legal reason not to (custody arrangements) then you should go for it. I benefitted greatly from living away from my very supportive family for a few years, really gave me lots of confidence.
As long as you plan it carefully there is no reason why it shouldn't work out. My advice is to have a job to go and a decent amount of savings to get yourself set up quickly.
I say go for it! A change of scene is sometimes what you need. Try to choose somewhere with cheap flights home so you can visit or they can visit you, especially for the kids.
My only advice is to save up as much as you can because moving knocks you a bit financially and there will be extra costs that catch you out, like for example laundromat until your washing machine arrives, changing over licence or car rego, train tickets or extra petrol while you drive around sorting things out (& get lost everywhere you go) new connection fees, new bond before your old ones been returned, temp accom, food and other incidental costs while actually moving, especially with kids.