Kids not listening

Anonymous

Kids not listening

Help!

I have 6 year old twins and they are doing my head in. They just won't listen. I constantly repeat myself, the normal morning routine as well as the afternoon unpacking school bag.

I have tried so many different tactics. Taking toys away, time outs, missing out on parties, different rewards charts, rewarding positive behavior. Explaining when they don't listen how it makes me sad, etc.

Is it a stage that they will grow out of? I'm almost at the point of needing to run away for a few days

Posted in:  Parenthood Guilt, Behaviour, Kids

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Anonymous

Listening is a skill that needs to be taught. To teach it when you want them to do something go to them, get eye contact and tell them one specific thing you want them to do. Give them 3 seconds to comply. If they don't go, get eye contact again and say 'I said .....' Then take them by the hand and make them do it. Once they realise that ignoring you out doesn't 'work' anymore they will just start going straight away. It seems more time consuming at the start but saves the yelling, repeating, pulling your hair out and if you are consistent it works quickly. I use this technique with kids with severe behaviour problems and it works!

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