We are strong capable woman

Anonymous

We are strong capable woman

Are woman conditioned to think we need a man when we have a difficult task? I had to move a couch out of the house. My mum didn't even want to think that we could do it together and wanted me to get some men to help. I ended up doing it alone just fine. Then my sister and friends mum wanted help moving and requested man power " I need 4 men" what if you get 4 weak men? What's wrong with 4 woman? Or 2 men 1 woman and a dog 😂 but like seriously ladies we are stronger and more capable then you think. All through life when ever a difficult task comes along we are taught to need a man. I grew up mostly in a house full of woman and still it was "we need a man to open this jar" then my sister would come and open it just fine. Apparently woman need help getting into boats too. Well I've had enough of it. Please believe in yourselves more. When you have a difficult task say I can do this I'm strong and capable and if you can't don't think a woman would be less capable to help you then a man.

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Anonymous

Totally agree with you. I’m so glad I grew up in a house where my parents believed this 100%.
I’ve never needed help from a man. My mum, me and my sister moved an entire house on our own in a day.
I can leg press over 300kgs.
I’ve put a new radiator in a car and serviced my own car.
There was no such thing growing up in men’s jobs or women’s jobs. Just shit that needed doing and we all participated in doing it.

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Anonymous

Totally agree.
My mum was on her own and we always did things for ourselves.
Now I tend to go ahead and do whatever I want done, when I want it done and my partner gets home and goes “oh why didn’t you get me to do that” or “I would have done that for you” and I’m just like... but I could do it just fine.
The only thing I usually won’t do, is something to do with heights because I’m frightened of heights but any other woman could do those types of things if they didn’t have a fear of it... hahaha some men would have a fear of heights too

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Anonymous

So true. Just like my dad is terrified of spiders. None of the women in the family are.

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Anonymous

I do agree, but there's also strength in knowing when you need help and when to ask for it!

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Anonymous

There is nothing wrong with asking for help, it doesn’t mean it needs to be from a man though!

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Anonymous

That's why I said if you need help don't think another woman wouldn't be able to help you

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Anonymous

Abso-fricken-lutely lady! Put it right there 💪 There is nothing I am not able to do :-) Even in my OCD cleaning sprees I manage to move my entire house around 😂 No problems at all ha ha... House move - no worries. Yard work - easy done ✅ #wegotthisladies!

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Anonymous

As someone who does functional capacity assessments for a living, most men can SAFELY lift more than women. What we can do is MUCH more than what we can safely do (same for men). So personally, as an allied health practitioner I have no issue with getting men to help move things as 4 healthy men can move an item that is heavier more safely than 4 healthy women. The average woman's safe lifting range (floor to waist) is about 12kg whereas for men it's 20kg. Obviously we can do much more than that but it carries a risk of injury

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Anonymous

Yes!
I gave myself a hernia from lifting a chest freezer because I had a "I don't need no man" attitude. If I had just asked my much stronger, more capable brother to move it, it would've saved me A LOT of pain and hassle.
Believing in yourself is important but knowing your limits is equally important too.

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Anonymous

My Dad worked away, so did my mum's friends husband.
My hubby worked pretty long hours.

My whole life mum and I moved houses, lifted things, got things fixed.

I don't even ask hubby to help, I just do it and if he is around he will help.

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Anonymous

Fully agree. I helped moved my furniture up and down stairs. Pushed people whose cars broke down, carried unwell fully grown men who were injured and more. I had a BF who came over as “muscle” and my dad and I ended up moving it all as he was too weak. I weighed just under 40kg as a teen and could do manual labour chores when needed. I also lifted safely without injury in all the years I have been doing it. Get over being told I should not do it because men are capable of lifting more simply due to having a hanger. Sure my partner can lift way more than I can but he can lift more than most blokes.

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