I feel so terrible, today my partners niece was over and asked me to brush her hair I’m a hairdresser and as I was brushing it she fainted.
She has a heart condition but everyone is blaming me saying I did something wrong.
The Niece said she was feeling hungry and that’s why she fainted but now no one in the family is taking to me. I haven’t stopped crying because al I literally did was brush her hair :( what can I do to fix it
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I call bullshit here.
How long have you known these people? Are they usually mean-spirited? Are they overprotective of her?
Did she say anything in the lead up that you missed or ignored? Did you not do something you were told you needed to do to care for her? If not, it is 100% not your fault. If yes, they still don't need to react this way. Accidents happen, noones perfect. The only time it would be acceptable would be if you arent listening to what theyre saying or doing what they were asking to care for her.
I’ve known them for over a year, normally she is fine runs around like a normal kid
The mother is known to over panic, we have never been told of special things to do for her besides no rides at amusement parks and such
What did you do when she fainted? Did you catch her? Call them immediately?
Sounds strange they would be so mad and you have no idea why.
Do you babysit her & the mum wasnt there?
I caught her as she fainted, put her into the recovery position and then looked at her mother and said what should I do? Call an ambulance ???
Youve done nothing wrong then. Its awful when everyones against you but honestly adults should not be doing this.
Take a big breath and let it go. You cant control what others think of you.
Hope that tomorrow they will calm down and see things a bit more clearly. Otherwise eventually your partner will need to ask them for a reason and talk some sense into them.
I have a heart condition and faint from numerous things. Generally there has to be a stimulus to make it happen, generally something such as pain, hunger, needing the toilet urgently etc. so yes it technically could have been your fault if you brushed too hard or she was hungry. If she was at your house they probably blame you for allowing her to be hungry (which can cause a drop in heart rate or blood sugar easily).
How did you react when she fainted?
From now on, they should be educating people on how to react and know the signs of it happening. Usually there are warning signs.
Her mother was sitting next to us at the kitchen table.
Wow okay I missed that part where she was present. You’ve done nothing wrong!
Maybe just let them cool off for a bit, it might just be the stress reaction and they don’t want to talk about it. If you do chat to them, don’t bring it up - just talk about something else.
I'm confused how this is your fault? Child has a medical condition that mum is experienced in managing, not you. Child says she's hungry and then happens to faint while you are brushing her hair under the supervision of the mum? Now they're angry at you??? Either they're asshole, you're not telling the full story or they're not really angry at you but are concerned about her and you've over reacted to the stress in their voices and perceived it as anger. I'm guessing the last and that this will be fine once they're not worried for her.
That is the whole story
She was fine the whole morning, came to me said can you brush my hair?
And then just fainted and once she was recovered she said she was hungry to her Mum and we gave her water a sandwich and was back to being a happy 6 year old
It wasn’t stress in their voice it was anger at my neglect apparently.
And I would have never done anything to hurt a child. I have two myself
Then ask them what is up. Because if they really are angry over that, there must be something else going on in their minds.
So if this all played out as you said it did (under her mums supervision etc), this sounds like their issue.
I'm sure it's very stressful having a child with a heart condition but this is not a rational reaction.
What does your partner have to say about all this?
Is he giving you the silent treatment too?
Sounds like they are having trouble accepting the child’s condition. Some people have to blame someone or something for stuff happening.
They are illogical and being incredibly unfair to you.
I can understand why you are so upset.
Oh dear 😞 As someone who faints from a heart condition or hypoglycaemia, it happens and no one can stop it! It’s hard for others to see that happen to me and it makes them get angry as some sort of worry reaction.
The whole thing sounds so odd, I would distance myself from all of them.
Have her tested for diabetes 1