Two weeks ago I went for my 18 week scan and found our beautiful baby had no heartbeat. I went to hospital and delivered Bub at 19 weeeks 1 day. We are still waiting for results and currently dont know if Bub was a boy or girl as growth stopped at 12w6d. How do you cope? I can’t sleep, struggle to eat and function. I have other kids at home so I’m “trying” to be the best mum I can be but inside I’m dying. I have a very strong support network but now I feel like a burden. I feel bad for feeling bad, I feel numb and fog headed and emotional and lost. Does anyone have any suggestions on what will happen from here?
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You should talk to your GP. But you aren't a burden just so you know. My sister delivered a stillborn at 36 weeks. She shutdown and didn't talk to me or numerous other people for almost 2 years and it hurt like hell. We tried to understand but it hurt. So reaching out is OK. I should mention though, they probably don't know what to say and don't want to make it worse so tell them what you need. Eg to talk without being told it was obviously for the best, or to be told it will be OK, or just to be hugged or to do something else and not mention it at all to try feel like you again. What you need today may not be what you need tomorrow so go easy on friends and family if they say the wrong thing but they're trying to help you. I hope you find a way out of the fog.
I have no advice, however I'd like to offer my condolences to you and please take care of yourself first and foremost.
So sorry for your loss, there are so many of us that understand 🙁
There is lots of good advice from others but I would encourage you to see a doctor - it took me ages as I thought it was just the grief but my doc explained that your hormones have a huge crash going from pregnant to not, so quickly. She put me on an antidepressant - just for 6mths - to get my Seratonin levels back to normal, and it changed my world 😃