What would you do if you found your half brothers and sisters through social media (ie scrolling through Facebook, insta) long story short;My mother was single parent, My biological father supported another family, chances are they know nothing of my existence, he has never wanted anything to do with me..even tho I saw him once or twice when I was 6 he has never been in my life and abandoned me and mum when I was pretty much born (2/3 months old)
I’m fine with that I’m not broken over it but my mind is enquistive about my other siblings and can’t help the fact I want to know more about my “other side”. BUT I’m not one to go and take a delicate situation and turn it into all about me. What would you do? Feeing as tho I should just leave it. Not worth the possibility of lives being turned upside down, wouldn’t want to upset anyone.
Finding my family..
Finding my family..
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Can you approach him first and see what he has to say? Tell him of your want to connect to them and ask him if they know of her existence. Give him a chance to come clean if not
No his uncontactable no way of getting his details. As he has no social media. I’ve tried searching him...
If you don't have a way of contacting him, just approach them. Obviously it's easier to walk away but it might not be the action that's best for you. I know a few people that found out about half siblings as teenagers and adults and some (not all) were messy at the start but they all have reasonably good relationships now.
I found my bio father online. I apparently seen him when I was a newborn but no contact for 33 years and i also found a bunch of siblings that have the same dad I messaged two sisters they are adults I just said I'm pretty sure we have the same dad. I talk to a few siblings now. Just be upfront but kind.
I'm an adopted child that has recently had contact from the "other side" Please be very careful as to what you actually want to know. I'e always adopted the approach of "I don't want to disrupt their lives" - there is a very big chance, given your father's actions, that they don't know about you or his previous relationship. If you are in Queensland, it is actually illegal for you to approach them without going through Department of Families - I understand that your situation is a little different but my strongest advise is to be sure of what you want to know, why you want to know. Are you prepared for them to effectively reject you as it may be just too much for them to take on board. Make sure that you are emotionally prepared for whatever is going to come your way. I'm not saying do it, I'm not saying don't - I am asking you to seriously consider the ramifications of your actions on their family and your's. The contact has turned my world upside down even though I have known that I was adopted all my life. Best of luck for whichever way you choose to go :)