Feeling like the worst mum.
My daughter is 3 in November and she is barely talking. She says words but you can't have a conversation with her. You ask her what she is doing and she just says nothing. You asked what she did at day care and she doesn't say anything that she did.
She asked me "what doing" and I will tell her what I am doing and she will just leave it at that.
She will ask for help if she can't doing something but it's after a whole screaming frustrating match!. Then I will tell her to ask me. And it's just "help mum".
She puts 2 words together maybe 3 some times.
I saw a boy today who is a month older than my daughter and his speech was amazing. My step son at that age was amazing having conversations etc with you. Telling you what he was doing asking why you were doing something.
A friends daughter who is the same age she's amazing. My other friends son who is 4 days older is talking asking questions etc. Telling you what he is doing and why he can't do something like "I can't do this because I'm to little"
I've seen a pediatrician and she said my daughter needs to see a speech therapist.
But I just feel like it's something I'm doing maybe. I've got depression quite bad and some days I shut off. Could that be it? Or arnt I doing enough with her? I just feel like shit and like I'm letting her down. đ
I just want to be able to talk to her and have some conversation interaction with her.
Daughter having problems talking
Daughter having problems talking
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11 Replies
Has she seen an ENT to rule out glue ear? I was the same until I had grommets and then I saw a speech pathologist and was on track.
It doesnât sound like anything you are doing wrong at all - donât blame yourself!
This isnât your fault, just like my sons intellectual disability isnât my fault and my arthritis isnât my mums fault. This things just happen.
Time to shake yourself out of the self blame game because I find it just gets me stuck rather than moving forward. Definitely bring it up with your mental health professional though.
Get that speech therapy referral and get onto it. They will give you strategies and homework to door between appointments.
Try not to feel bad! I have felt the same so many times over the years. Why is my child not doing this or that compared to other children?! Is it my fault?! Take comfort that all kids are different and develop in their own time. Age 3 is a great time to start therapy in my opinion and there seems to be so many kids doing speech therapy to help them a long! My son recently turned 5 and heâs been going for two years (stuttering and repaired cleft lip/palate) and the results have been fantastic so itâs worth it! You can go through your local hospital ($10 a session) or privately. Good luck!
Iâd definitely take her to the speech pathologist and gets some tricks but if it makes you feel any better, my cousin was a lot like this and then all of a sudden, he just picked it all up at once. And then there was no stopping him.
Itâs not your fault. Youâre doing all the right things. Keep talking to her, keep saying things to her even if itâs âwhat are you doing? Oh, I can see youâre playing in your little kitchen.â Ect
Read her books, sing nursery rhymes. Youâre doing all the right things
Listen to me - this is in no way, shape or form your fault!
She's just over 2 and a half, this is actually so common, 2 of my 3 kids didn't really start using sentences until they were at least 3. My youngest's speech was still quite basic even at 4!
Look into the speech therapy and a hearing check may be a good idea too.
And remember, you're not to blame!
My oldest daughter was the same. My youngest could talk in sentences at 18 months. I didn't do anything different in how I raised them. It's not your fault, some kids just need some extra help. Get her into speech therapy asap and I'm sure eventually she will start talking well.
Do as you have been referred, see a speech pathologist and then do the homework they give you, no point wondering if this was caused by your behaviour good chance it is nothing to do with it. Work on the now and supporting your little person, donât wait early intervention works best, and be the best Mum you can be now. You have got this
Stop feeling guilty and just take her to the speech pathologist. A lot of kids have speech delays and just need a little boost. Best to get onto it sooner rather than later.
This has nothing to do with you, even the most neglected child would typically develop speech.
My son also didn't talk much or could string words etc together. Now 2 years later after taking him to the speech therapy and ruling out hearing and any mental type problems we have the problem of not being to make him quiet at times he just keeps on talking away only problem harder to understand him atm with the missing front teeth. I'd like to think some children like to be observers and talk later on but ruling out anything is a good idea. The speech therapist was able to rule out if the cause of speech delay was just because of lack of practice or a connection from brain to mouth etc. I think childrens lifestyle also plays apart, my child didn't get to interact with children that much and that's what they need more often to help learn.
There are many reasons why children struggle with speech. Has she had a hearing test, have you read to her consistently. Reading to children is so important as well as engaging in conversation with them. See the speech therapist, get a hearing test and make sure you try to read to her each day, talk about the pictures, what is happening in the story. Engage in conversation with her, even if itâs just to talk about what you are doing, letâs make dinner? What do we need? Can you grab the carrots etc. all of this helps. If children arenât exposed to language they can have delays. Good luck. Youâve got this xx
I have a daughter with speech delay. Just like all the other ladies are saying it's not your fault. Get her to the speech therapist and do the best you can from this point on.
Remember she is only 3. Some kids don't develop their speech skills until they are 4, but the earlier you get onto it the easier it is to correct.