School Mums

Anonymous

School Mums

Is there a way to navigate them? I can never figure out if they like me or not? Or why I even care I'm 41 Years old!
But yet, there I am every school pick up and drop off - wondering if I'm going to bump into one of them, will they say hi, will the brush off my wave/hello.

A little back story - my son started kinder 5 years ago and I had 1 year old twins at home and had just given up my job. I was desperate to make some mum friends, I have no living family. I tried so hard to fit in, and join their group - I made myself look like a moron. I learned my lesson eventually and backed off, but every so often, I find myself back in that place of wanting to belong.
They are gossipy, and absolutely cruel to people in their discussions of them. They also somehow seem to know everyone's personal business and discuss it like its the morning news.

I have plenty of friends outside of this group, a very strong core group of positive women, and others that I see on a regular basis. So, I know making friends is not my problem. What is wrong with me??

Posted in:  Mental Health, Sisterhood Stories, Kelly (IM2)

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Anonymous

You are trying to be friends with bitches, thats whats wrong with you! I don't get this school mums thing. I have 4 kids that have been through primary school already, I don't get the big thing with other school mums? I found a few mums that were my age to have some kid related convo with at pick up time and I was happy. I never felt as though i had to be accepted by anyone there, its literally just a time to pick up kids and take them home or wherever. Take up a sport or hobby, find friends that way ☺

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Anonymous

School mums are very much like high school girls. Their little groups are formed very quickly and early on, so if you wanted to be part of that I'd say you missed the boat - you don't really want that though do you?

Honestly Hun, school mum friendships are mostly situational (there are exceptions before I get the rebuttals), I can almost guarantee those clicky women won't even be friends once the kids grow up.

You've got your tribe, don't worry about being part of this one.

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Anonymous

Hahahaha this is so true! Let me fill you in on something - I’m a teacher, been in the profession for years and seen so much of this and the professionals that teach their children have a very low opinion of these types of parents. they are a big fat joke!! You don’t want to be one of them trust me. Just keep on being you mamma and keep away from these morons that are setting a very poor example for their children 🙄

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Anonymous

My friend found this too. Personally I've found the interactions I've had to be good and easy. I wonder whether demographics are a factor.

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Anonymous

I find these friendships utterly fake. Who sees someone 10 meters away, calls out "Hiiiiiiiiiii Bettttthhhh!!!!" Walks over , hugs her, kisses her cheek, and has a 2 minute conversation? I see right through it.

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