When do you know you have tried your hardest and have no regrets about walking away?

Anonymous

When do you know you have tried your hardest and have no regrets about walking away?

When do you know you have no regrets because you have tried your hardest???

I’m so lost, I don’t know where I am going or what I am doing, sure my life looks like it is together from the outside looking in but in all pure honesty it’s very much the opposite... I’m so lonely and so afraid to make friends as I have been hurt by friends who I have considered close... I live in a small village where I’m sure no one really wants to make new mates. I have a 13yr old from a previous marriage and a 10mth old and nearly been married a year and in the relationship for 3 years but I’m not feeling the love or caring or support I’m not feeling anything really anymore my husband is very strict on the teen to the point where he (teen)has begged me to let him go to his grandparents for a week during holidays, he says things to the teen and my grandfather that he wouldn’t dare say to his nephews or his own pop. And when I try and talk to him about it we end up fighting... I am at the point where I don’t even want to celebrate our wedding anniversary this Saturday... we have so lost our way. On the up side I have lost over 15kg trying to become more healthy and happy for my kids. I love my husband but I’m not sure I’m in love with him. I don’t think he had any love for me, btw I’m on the lounge again and he is curled up in bed asleep without a worry in the world. Vent and emotional outlet finished. Anyone else gone through something similar? Any thoughts on approaching the issues apart from Councelling which I was going to but he kept canceling so why should I keep bothering if he isn’t?🤔

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Self Care, Kids

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Anonymous

I think its time to go. Flags Im seeing - treatment of teen and teen also desperately unhappy in own home, you sound depressed yourself, seeing everything in a negative light (I can identify with that) unfortunately it makes us scared to change and lose anything else but actually what's good for us is most likely the change and loss of what is making life this way. And thirdly, he doesn't care for your feelings, you're alone with him anyway.
A break will help you in all sorts of ways. It doesn't have to be the very end, you can work on things seperately it might give you the space to see differently or it might be the end and if that's better for you then you will be ok.

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