Could telling my manager that I'm considering other options jeopardise my job?

Anonymous

Could telling my manager that I'm considering other options jeopardise my job?

A little under 2 years ago my part-time position in a small office was made redundant. With my daughter starting Prep the following year, I decided to seek out full time work and landed in a job that I LOVE. It is fast-paced, fun and challenging, frustrating at times but our team is fantastic so the more difficult times aren't the worst. My hubby and I agreed that me going full-time had to benefit the family, both financially and in terms of the impact on our daughter and our quality time spent together.

Some things have changed and I'm starting to wonder if this job is still the best fit for us: work hours are getting longer (hence our daughter's days at school and OSHC are long, since I work closer to her school I pick her up); team dynamics have changed due to people moving on and I don't connect well with the new team members; new responsibilities have been lumped on me with "promises" of remuneration reviews which are yet to happen; the feeling around the workplace is generally negative, and I'm suffering anxiety (always have, but it's worse lately).

I am yet to put feelers out on other jobs but I'm going to have a meeting with my manager this week as I feel as though he needs to know how I'm being affected. We have a good relationship and he's aware (I think) of the extra strain put on me lately. I'm concerned that if I mention that I'm considering moving on that might have an impact on my current position. Do I leave that bit out or mention it to drive home the seriousness of the situation?

Posted in:  Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Self Care, Parenthood Guilt, IM's In Business, Money

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Anonymous

Leave it out. Uts not something to threaten your boss with and they normally give up on helping and start looking out for themselves once youre leaving.

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Anonymous

Definitely leave it out!

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Anonymous

In this instance leave it out. In your meeting focus on the negativity you're experiencing (no names or pointing fingers) and brainstorm ways to bring back the positive workplace culture and instead of the remuneration that hasn't eventuated go back to the division of responsibilities and get help in delegating those other tasks back to where they belong (ie even if you have to teach someone else to do it) until they do offer the package to make it more worthwhile.

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Anonymous

Don't use it as a bomb unless you are prepared to resign on the spot. Not everyone will see it as a mention, if my staff said that I would be thinking they where trying to control me had already checked out, and I wouldn't listen as I would assume they where already on there way out. Have a serious chat air what you have to and it might change, if not look for a role and resign with a clear conscious that you tried to correct the situation before moving on

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