How do I tell my mother in law to mind her own business!
So my finance and I are planning on purchasing a home in the near future. We have been saving for quite some time and have met with a number of mortgage brokers who said that they are happy with the amount we have saved and can definitely find us a loan no problems
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However, my mother in law has asked us "how can we even afford a house when you need a $100,000 deposit!?"
And also, what will we do financially when we start having children??
Now, firstly, she is NOT aware of how much savings we have, perhaps we do have $100,000 but thats not for her to know also I feel like when she talks about money with us(more like she talks at us about money) even in the past she feels as though we are poor or struggling. We have never asked her for money EVER, nor do we have any debts we go on holidays twice a year and can comfortably pay all of our bills on time and have never had any issues. We both work full time and have for years.
Secondly, about us having children. We have both discussed together us having children in the future but not to her and neither has my fiance, but she keeps bringing this up. She buys toys for children she says they're for herself and always talks about us having having children. It's annoying, what if we can't have kids or don't want to have kids but she keeps pushing her thoughts onto us and frankly I'm over it!
So basically, how do I tell my mother in law to back off and mind her own business??
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I would just ignore it. My MIL has an opinion on everything we do even if we literally did the same thing she did! Like we sent our child to a private school. She said "How can you afford it? There is no need to send her to a private school" blah blah blah...when she herself sent my partner to the MOST EXPENSIVE private school in town! We ignored it, our daughter loves the school and we can easily afford it.
Just ignore, ignore, ignore.
It's your fiancée job to handle His parents. It's your job to handle Your family.
Ignore what you can. It sounds like pretty normal concerns and conversations adult children have with there parents. I'd definitely discuss this stuff with my parents.
If you aren't sure on the kids stuff ask your fiance to have a quiet private conversation with his mum.
One day Just casually say "oh we're not having kids" and then go on to talk about the breed of dog you'd like to buy instead. 😁
She sounds like a wonderful mother in law that you are intent on shutting out of your life. If you do have children, she will likely be a blessing. Don't put her off side already.