How do I ask my husband to be more hygienic?
This has been an ongoing issue, for years. We've been together almost 10 years. I've asked out right, told him to his face. I've tried being nice about it, brought it up in conversation with actually being direct.
He Smokes and drinks lots of coffee and NEVER brushes his teeth. He showers once, maybe twice a week.
I love my husband so much and I just want to enjoy being intimate with him, I miss kissing him...i want to do all that without using sex as a bargaining chip, like people have suggested to me.
Life hasn't always been easy for us and I know not looking after himself could partly be because of stress and possibly depression but I just thought that personal hygiene is what you do..
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You poor bugger,
My husband has depression and still showers and brushes his teeth twice a day,
Tell him stop being lazy!!!
I'm sorry but if that's all he's ever been like he probably won't change.
Not saying he definitely won't, but this is one of the reasons I couldn't stay with my ex. He showered when we first got together but once he had me he let himself go.
He can go weeks in the same clothes, not showering, not brushing his teeth.
I started out hinting around it, being nice til I got to the point I was just straight up blunt about it.
Even then it didn't change a thing.
I'd straight away tell him he stinks, his breath stinks if he tried to kiss me.
He would just shrug his shoulders and not care, definitely wouldn't be embarrassed. I thought maybe it was depression until I found out from people who have known him for a long time that he was always like this, he wasn't raised to have proper hygiene. He's absolutely terrible with cleaning too, he could leave dishes all over the kitchen to the point they grow mould. Eventually it started feeling like I was raising a teenage boy, telling him to clean up after himself, to shower, make sure he washes himself properly and brush his teeth.
Showering is something that you should have to tell a man in his 30s to do, or anyone for that matter unless they're a child.