Hi mummas
I’m just looking for some advice or similar situations and the outcome, I’ll try to keep it short.
The ex and I have a lo together - almost 8 months old- breast fed still. Anyway I left because of dv and also his drug use (marijuana) . We have been separated for 6 months, and in that time gone to family mediation which our current agreement is that he sees bub 1-1.5hrs whilst I’m also there, he has in this time always tried to get back with me, sometimes he loves me and the next I’m every name under the sun, he’s moods chop and change what feels like every second, I even just get extremely anxious when I see that I have a text from him. Now he has called families Australia and wants to do another agreement which he wants to have bub by himself. I’m freaking out, and please I know Father’s rights and I wish he were different and I wish I felt confident enough to let him have time with bub by himself, but unfortunately even in this six months when we have met, he has smoked his weed in front of bub and lost it when I asked him not too and I left. So i just can’t even imagine what he’ll do if I’m not there. And he’s also been raided in this time and caught driving with it in his car. I don’t know what to do I’m seriously stressing out about it, I know he loves bub but I’m so so stressed about the outcome of this as I know we won’t agree and will probably end up going to court, so just looking for any advice and or similar stories or outcomes of that might happen for our situation , thank you mummas
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You can ask for supervised visits. He will need to pay for it and they handle everything so that you dont need to see him. You can wait outside. Or you can be in there but there is a witness so if he keeps up his abuse towards you he will lose his supevised visits.
I hope you understand that you dont have to continue putting yourself through contact with him that causes anxiety and exposure to drugs. Thats a huge issue to you and the baby and he wont keep his rights while hes doing that.
I would definitely asking for supervised visits. You will be surprised what gets agreed to in mediation.
If it goes to court most lawyers on both sides will try to negotiate before the judge sees you. You can ask for things like supervised visits and family therapy. All these things will look good for you.