I hate my partners dog!

Anonymous

I hate my partners dog!

I moved in with my partner 3 years ago, he's a great guy but i hate his dog! Ive never moved into someone elses house, and never lived with a dog or owned one. The problem is his dog (a labrador) lives in the house 24/7 and hates being outside, hes very clingy (which drives me nuts) hes my partners best friend, but theres no rules or boundaries on this dog! He eats at the table with us (which i totally disagree with) he used to sleep in our room until i got hayfever really bad from the dog hair. The house is dirty from the dog, i cant even walk barefoot on thd floor because he slobbers on tbe tiles. i hate the dog hair with a passion, its everywhere and gets all over my clothes, and it makes me angry! If i say anything my partner says im demonising his dog. I moved out in June and got my own home, i loved it! No dog hair and my house was clean. My lease is nearly up and my partner wants me to move back, but i said to him i want the dog to start being outside as he shouldnt be inside all day. I put the dog outside, and he says nothing but he isnt enforcing it, so the dog ignores me. Today i vacuumed his whole house and the amount of dog hair in the carpet nearly made me sick. Do i really want to move back? Or do i have an issue? Has anyone else had this same issue?

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Anonymous

Don't move back. Move on. You know his lifestyle and it's not for you, so admit it and make the cut.
I'm a dog person and my Labrador is inside 24/7. I'm not going to change that for anyone. My dog was here first and I don't believe you have a pet to watch it through a window.
Mind you I refuse to have carpet and vacuum every single day

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Anonymous

To live with someone there needs to be compromise on both sides. You need to find a happy medium both both of you need to come to the table on it.

What do you want? What does he want? There both one extreme to the next.
So rather than outside all the time, he can come in at night after dinner. And when he does come in he needs boundaries. No dogs at the table or on the lounge. Apart from hygiene reasons I'm a dog behaviorist and can say that a dog who sees himself as an equal is a dog that doesn't listen or obey rules. He needs to see himself at the "bottom of the pack" in order to obey his "leaders" (you and hubby)
It doesn't mean he is less important, it just means he has a different role.

Just remember for your partner to compromise, you need too as well.
As for the hair, head into godfreys and get yourself a bagged powered vacuum (if you don't have one already) it will change your life lol

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Anonymous

Sorry but it wont change so make your choice based on that.
My dog used to be with me24/7. I cant fo that now so this one is outside but he comes in a bit and even thats enough for hair to be everywhere dirt on things itchy noses I hate it too but I love hin and he needs company a dog cant just live alone outside thats cruel.

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Anonymous

It sounds like he is putting his dog before you. I'm a dog lover always had a dog I still have rough Collies. Growing up there use to be hair every where but I didn't mind to I had a baby now they live out side.
My dad has a lab and omg the hair!! His here for 10 minutes and I get a whole vacume of hair. When he comes over I ask him to out the big black thing out side but he doesn't tells me to stop being mean.
Eating at the table is grose. I'm a vet nurse and this is just discussing and I do a lot of gross things in my job.
He needs to make changes if he wants you to move back.
Maybe he can have his dog in side for an hour a day and keep him to one room. Kids are different than animals I wouldnt make any changes with my daughter but when I meet my partner he didn't like my dog sleeping in my bed so I changed it and now she sleeps in the lounge room with the other dog. I love him so I made the change

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Anonymous

You can say no to moving back in.

Sounds like there wasn’t any issues with living seperate. I’d keep it the way it is. Renew the lease or find another place!!

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Anonymous

I'd renew the lease or ask for a month by month lease until you can sort this problem out.
Does he own the house? Or rent?
If he rents, maybe give the realestate a call and tell them about the dog inside/condition of the house with the fur.
You both need to compromise.
A dog shouldn't be eating at the table.
Maybe the dog could have an hour or two inside, and the rest is outside.
I couldn't deal with having a partner and dog like that, and I'm a dog lover!!

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Anonymous

There's got to be some middle ground here.
Keeping the dog off the table and bed, cleaning up after the dog (IE. Vacuuming daily, twice if need be) = totally reasonable requests.
Expecting a dog who's been an inside dog and by his owners side from day one to suddenly be turfed outside because you're not a dog person = not reasonable.

Also, you're totally not obliged to move back in. If there's no compromise with the doggo, renew your lease or find somewhere new. Doesn't mean any changes need to happen within your relationship, just some people aren't compatible to live together.

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Anonymous

How old is this dog? The dog was obviously around before you came into this man’s life and it is utterly unfair for you to try to change everything now you are around. Either you can learn to love the dog or you can’t. If you can’t, move on. The man obviously is very devoted to his pet and you should not and could not change that. On the up side, if he can be that devoted to his pet, imagine what a devoted partner he could be!

I’m a Labrador owner and yes, the hair is full on. My girl is 9 and has free reign of the house and yard (we have a dog door). If the hair is a problem, organise for the dog to go to a groomer once a month for a proper dog deshedding grooming (my sister is a groomer in Adelaide - these treatments make a huge difference). Follow this up by going over him with a ‘furminator’ (expensive but so worth it) a couple of times a week.

Go to Godfreys and buy the best pet vacuum you/he can afford. One with a powered head. They make a huge difference.

Labs aren’t typically a droolly breed so might be time to get him to the vet - may be an issue with his mouth or teeth.

Invest in a good lint roller for your clothes or a clothes dryer. Stick them on an airing cycle and you will get lots of hair off them.

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Anonymous

I have a similar situation where, after 2 years dating, my partner invited me to live with her and her two small 5 year old Pomeranian/Terrier mix dogs (one of them is a hyper manic-psychotic nervous wreck). I absolutely despise the free reign she allows them and they’re so sticky-bee to her they snarl and snap if I simply return to bedroom from the loo. I had one demand and that was no sleeping on the bed it’s bad enough they relieve themselves inside the house whenever they have an issue with the wet grass outside. Sometimes it appears pure laziness to hop through the pet door is their only reason. The living room carpet simply reeks terrible of urine. Much to my own discredit I’ve had to man up and try to understand the reality of the concept of the “they were there first” and the fact that she acquired them as puppies they have an unshakable, unchangeable, innate almost modified chromosomal devotion and loyalty to her. And she loves and adores them and fawns over them to point of extreme eye rolling where my eyes get stuck looking backwards at my brain lol it’s bad. That all said luckily she’s been somewhat reasonable in trying to modify their behaviour and bad habits which she’s known all along were not conducive to cohabitation with someone who doesn’t share her pet adoration.

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Jessica Forster

You literally just described my fucking life. Same dog breed and everything. Over it.

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