SIL infertility issues

SIL has Infertility issues

Hi. I am looking for some stories (positive or negative) from some of you ladies who may have had similar issues as my SIL and what your outcomes were please. Have any of you had success who were faced with the same issues? I'm guess I'm looking for hope for her. I'll tell you her story.

She is currently 35 yrs old and is an endometriosis sufferer. Over the last 4 years she & her fiancé (42) (both childless) have tried (unsuccessfully) to fall pregnant naturally. His sperm was tested and is fine and she was told it was the endometriosis that was stopping her from falling.

2 years ago she had major surgery to remove the endometriosis from her bowel, which resulted in some of her bowel being cut out. She was told to start trying again immediately and that she should have no probs falling pregnant.

12months - nothing

This year they had 3 unsuccessful artificial insemination cycles. She was told at the start (I guess after the blood tests) that she is has entered early menopause which means their chances of falling pregnant are minuscule 😔 They went ahead anyway. The last a/Insemination cycle resulted in only one egg retrieval, which resulted in a negative pregnancy.

Over the last couple of months we found out that the endometriosis is back in her bowel and she will need major surgery again. She is devastated to say the least. She is in a lot of pain and needs the surgery done asap. They don't know how much of what's left of the bowel is affected. And the longer they leave it the more dangerous it becomes. This may end up resulting in a hysterectomy. She was advised to try one more cycle and they were ivf approved. My sil is emotionally exhausted but agreed to give it one last go.

She got lucky and they implanted 2 healthy embryos last Wednesday 😀 AND they may have one more to freeze (they aren't sure if it's strong enough yet). I am crossing everything I can in hope for this to work. I really am!

They desperately want a child and they deserve to be blessed with one. They would make wonderful parents...

Her brother and I fell pregnant passing each other in the hallway 4 times! So I really have no idea what hell she is going through atm but I am feeling so utterly desperate for her (if that makes sense) and I would just like to know what I could be doing for her right now or what the right thing to say is?

I have told her that I could never put myself in her shoes and understand how she is feeling, and that I would totally understand why I wouldn't nessarily be her go to person (based on the above) BUT if she ever needs me I'm here to listen and talk to. Is there anything else I could say or do other than contact her for updates??? I feel so useless. I also feel guilty that it happened for me so easily and that she is really struggling.

I have thought about being a surrogate for them (she only has one brother, no sisters) but I really don't think I could do it. I'm 41 and have had previous pregnancy issues that resulted in blood clots in my lungs so I'm really not wanting to go down that path again...

She has also briefly looked into adoption both here in Aus and abroad but she wasnt feeling very positive about that either with all the legalities/red tape etc Perhaps she'll look further into that and or surrogacy down the track if she needs to.

Thanks for listening