Hi sisters,
I'm pregnant with my ex's baby (we split very early on) and now I am back in the dating scene. I'm not showing yet and still early days but should I be upfront before a date or see how it goes? How do I bring it up? Any advice or experience with this would be wonderful.
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You absolutely should be upfront!
That's a very big deal to keep secret. Which ever man you choose to date, they deserve to know what they might be getting mixed up in.
Yes you should be upfront about it. Sure some may run away but they're not the men you want to waste your time with anyway.
I disagree, but only because surely they would run for the hills. So yes be honest and time it well but not before youve even had a date. Somewhere after first date but before getting serious.
I'd be upfront, but don't expect too much beyond fun most guys would run for the hills unfortunately 🙁
I think I agree with everyone else, best to be upfront.
Be prepared for some of your dates to be completely freaked out though, they might think you're expecting to jump right into something serious when they're only looking for something casual.
I think it'd be a good thing to consider what you're actually after too. Are you after a serious relationship? Are you just looking for something casual? Are you just after the companionship and someone to hang out with? Knowing what you want will make this process easier.
I'd say just put it out there straight away, make your intentions known and tell your date that you won't be offended if they aren't comfortable with it (at least you'll know where you stand and you won't be wasting your time on the dude!)
Good luck xx
Do you think dating is the best thing to focus on with that precious baby inside you? There are some really bad people out there, diseases and even not being able to trust your own feelings due to the crazy hormones. It's pretty complicated, I think you should definitely be upfront. Good luck with the pregnancy.
I'd be taking some time to focus on you and this baby - it's obviously not that far along if you aren't showing so are you actually "ready" to date? What is making you want to date I.e. Are you lonely, do you need support?
100% be upfront, it'd be awkward on a first date when you don't drink alcohol if offered and that'll make an awkward convo.
Just to add, the relationship ended long ago and one night this happened. I'm not lonely by any means but the perfect person may have come into my life by sheer chance. I'm a firm believe that things happen for a reason. I know how I feel about myself and my dating status all I really want to know is should I go on atleast one date before I say anything?
Honestly, this question made me cringe. I don't know why, but it just seems groc to me sleeping with a new guy when you have someone's else's baby inside of you, have no idea why. Plus all the not so positive changes to your body when pregnant and starting a new relationship with someone ewwww, I couldn't imagine it.
You are a more confident woman than me, good luck and yes, you should absolutely be upfront. If I were a guy, I would want to absolutely know.
I don't recall the OP asking for opinions on whether she should be dating or not, nor did she ask for anyone's approval.
Is it so hard to answer the question asked?
Everyone did answer the question asked, and just included their thoughts also.
Depends what you're looking for. If it's a casual thing then no. If you both develop feelings after a few dates then tell him. No-one reveals all their stuff on the first date, or even the second, not unless it's a magical connection and it's a fateful soulful connection with fireworks and the likes