How do we grieve

Anonymous

How do we grieve

I'm struggling with the loss of my step son.
He was 9 months old when he passed 3 years ago. We have had no closure. We haven't been told the truth about his death as we have gotten 2 different stories from 1 person and the other people who were there won't tell us what happened.
His birth mother was drinking and went to sleep with him and he died. His autopsy says sids category 2. Which is mechanical asphyxia. The police never breath tested or drug tested her even though she admitted to drinking. Instead the police tried to blame my husband for his death when he wasn't even there. The police report is only a paragraph long. And that in itself is suspicious to us also.
How do we get closure when no one will tell us the truth and how do we get this investigated further.

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Anonymous

Firstly, no judgement but being a step mum to a 9 month old would take a huge toll on the actual mum. - possibly why they are insinuating Dad was apart of the problem, he should of been helping his baby's mum.
Secondly, Dad needs to investigate as he is considered a parent and would have parental rights and would have access to more channels than what you would.
Thirdly, you need the coroners report, and to speak with the police who were called to the scene, state your objections and issues and they will advise you on how to proceed.
Fourth, counselling. Death of children is traumatic and counselling sessions are generally offered immediately by medical staff who attended to the case. It sounds like you would benefit from this as would Dad.

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