Should I be pissed?

Anonymous

Should I be pissed?

We have recently been on a family holiday with my husband and his family to Thailand. The last night he went out to a pub with his brothers. The next morning I was on Facebook and seen that he had become friends with a Thai woman. He was still sleeping so I went into his phone and seen that he had sent her a fb message with a photo off the two of them. When he woke up I was super pissed and asked what the hell it was all about. He said she asked him to send it to her. I believe that nothing physically happened. And I honestly don't care if they were having a drink with them, but I find it disrespectful to go to the extreme of adding her in Facebook sending a picture. I don't know how to handle the situation? I'm still so pissed! And he doesn't seem to think it's an issue!

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Anonymous

Ooooh I'd be pissed ?

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Anonymous

If you honestly believe nothing physical happened and the entire conversation is him sending her a pic of the 2 of them, isn't part of the point of travelling to meet and make new friends from around the world? There's a few different scenarios in which I would be mega pissed also but that doesn't sound alarming.

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Anonymous

If you really trust him, then obviously she was flirting with him / they were each other because lets be honest a guy and guy wouldnt do that. So ask him to imagine how he would feel if you went out and made a new Thai male friend on your holiday night out and see if he feels like deleting her. If he still thinks its not an issue and totally legit hes lying and putting a random over you, even if he hadnt done anything.

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Anonymous

I think it really depends on the importance you place on FB friends. I have FB friends I've never met. Some of them are lovely people my friend has met on her travels (dreaming of the day I can travel with her) and she will literally friend someone the day she meets them if she likes them, she's a beautiful single female so many of these lovely people are blokes. Some of them I share interests with, others I once played games with and when that stopped I kept a few of the peeps because I actually enjoyed their posts! Many of these ex-games friends are guys too. I just played blokey games I guess, there's nothing sinister about it, no ulterior motive, just how it is and not once has my partner mentioned - or I'd go as far as to say, probably hasn't even noticed, simply due to the fact FB friends aren't a threat to us.
My partner has many female friends, he's like me doesn't travel but has lots of old school friends and work colleagues that are chicks, I've never met them but that doesn't mean he can't be friends with them, I too wouldn't know how many I just see the odd post of theirs that he comments on or likes. FB for us is just a tool to keep in touch, it's not private, personal or intimate.
In your circumstances. Who knows what he was thinking but she's in Thailand. Maybe she just seemed really cool and he likes the thought of having a foreign friend he's actually met. Maybe he hopes that if you all go back to Thailand you'll have a better experience for knowing a local. Maybe he added her just to send the photo and the next day would have deleted her but now it's all blown up out of proportion.

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Anonymous

It depends on your relationship and boundaries as to whether you should be pissed. For me, I wouldn't have cared less but we are very secure in our relationship and that stuff doesn't worry me. A lot of the Thai girls/ladyboys rely on photos with "customers" or "friends" to promote themselves to men who genuinely want to go and use her for her services. She may have asked him to add her and send the photo so she could do this.

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Anonymous

This isn't something that would bother me. My parents have male and female friends that are separate from each other and have there own friends on Facebook.
I am friends with men and women on Facebook some who I have only met once and some I've never met.
There are also photos that I've had taken with people who I've met on a night out who were just photos. That's it. You know, you were just chatting to someone, passing the time and someone had whipped out a phone to take a snap, so you've posed.

I just don't see a problem with having male and female friends. Sometimes you just meet a nice person, have a nice chat etc.

Nothing in his actions tell me that you should be concerned about anything happening.

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Anonymous

Seems a bit dodgy to me. Has he previously broken your trust? Would he be ok if you went out and partied with some local guys, took photos and became fb friends? I just don't see the purpose of it, unless he plans to continue a 'friendship' with this lady, and I'd put money on her not wanting to just be friends! He is inviting this person into your lives via fb

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