I understand this is a touchy subject but plz do not judge others.. i just need advice.
Im after advice and stories about abortion especially those after 15wks.
Is that even a thing without a real reason as to why? (Ie health risk etc) im in nsw.
Ive just found out im 15wks.
Advice plz. Did you have one? Medical or surgical? Why did you go through with it? Do you regret it?
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I regret my abortion everyday I had one at 5 weeks. I'm not sure you can abort at 15 weeks unless there's a medical problem. I had a surgical abortion so I was put to sleep. Goodluck with whatever u decide x
I think adoption over abortion at 15plus weeks would be a better option ?
In NSW an abortion is lawful if the woman’s doctor believes on reasonable grounds that it is necessary to avoid a serious danger to her life or her physical or mental health, taking into account economic and social factors as well as medical ones. You do not need a referral from a doctor to attend a clinic, appointment can be made directly with a clinic. There are strict controls and you will not be pressured to go ahead against your will. At 15 weeks it will be surgical.
15 weeks will not be surgical, they do not do surgical after 13 weeks. Unfortunately you would have to have a medical abortion.
I had a surgical one at 8 weeks, I think of the "what ifs" daily, but also I know it was the right decision for me, I was 18 with a drop kick boyfriend.
Do you have a support person with whatever your decision may be
How did you go? Xx
Just 9 more weeks and your baby would be considered viable outside the womb. Babies have been know to survive earlier then that aswell. If you were to have an abortion now your baby would likely be born alive as it's too late for other methods. This means your baby would be born the normal way and take breaths. I think you should possibly think about carrying to term and adopting baby out. Your already past the legal age in most places for abortion.
I'll take the baby. Put the baby up for adoption. Adoption helps a family and you won't have to worry about feeling bad
If a baby is born alive after an abortion they don't sedate them. They get put on a table and left to die. It's quite terrible. I understand early abortions I'm pro choice but not as late as 15 weeks. Imagine babies as late as term on the table.
honestly. ay 15 weeks your babies body has ten fingers and ten toes. it has a brain and a heart and when you look at the ultrasound its fully formed... i understand you just found out and its obviously a shock. but let the shock wear off. if you still dont believe you can look after this baby then maybe look into other options. adoption would be amazing and selfless ... you give your child a chance at life and a family that has been waiting years and years to have their own. your situation is only made temporarily inconvenient as far as 5 more months of pregnancy and then labour... there are different options with adoption these days too. you can choose to be known to the family so you can have information and know where your baby is etc but not do the parenting part. i understand every situation is different and i am also pro chioce but your 15 weeks.. its not longer a pea nut or a tad pole. its a fully formed baby.
Hi firstly contact you local state sexual health clinic and see what they can help with the earlier the better if you choose to abort i have had 1 sergical and 1 medical at 5 months due to fatal abnormalities just make sure you choose the right discision for yourself i am still going through hell of custody battles now regarding my 13 year old son whos father has bo contact with him but causes me trouble just to make me suffer i was inly allowed to leave victoia 14 months ago after trying for 12 years just really think about your discision sometimes we really want a child but think really long and hard about what the situation is going to be like for yourself and your child long term because you dont want your chikd ti suffer like mine has due to a dodgy legal system
This is 100% your choice.
I had an abortion when I was 15. I wasn't as far along as you are but I don't regret the decision I made at all. I wouldn't have the life I have now if I didn't do that. 2 beautiful kids and an amazing husband.
Go speak to your gp because I think the procedure would be a lot different to the normal ones they do when you arnt as far along.
Also go see a counsellor and talk through all your emotions and make sure you are prepared for this and the emotions you will feel after, and make sure this is what you want not what you feel that you have to do.
No one is ever ready to be a parent, but if this is something you feel you need to do please be fully informed by your gp on what will happen.
Best of luck with whatever you decide.
a good friend of mine had one at 16 weeks after the father of the child became aggressive as she'd considered keeping the baby. This was her first pregnancy. Apparently the further into the pregnancy the more complications can occur. She had hoped to one day have children with the right man. Unfortunately she lost the ability to become pregnant, suffered severe depression & regrets the abortion daily. I'm not sure of your situation but if you plan to one day have children, it may not be a possibility later. Just consider everything & best of luck
a good friend of mine had one at 16 weeks after the father of the child became aggressive as she'd considered keeping the baby. This was her first pregnancy. Apparently the further into the pregnancy the more complications can occur. She had hoped to one day have children with the right man. Unfortunately she lost the ability to become pregnant, suffered severe depression & regrets the abortion daily. I'm not sure of your situation but if you plan to one day have children, it may not be a possibility later. Just consider everything & best of luck
Hi. I had one at 17 weeks. I didnt find out until nearly 16 weeks. basically same position. it wasnt a choice for me, i had to go through with it. it was surgical, over 2 days. i wont say it was easy and that i havent thought about it since. I think about it alot but it was 100% the right decision for me. I hope things work out for you.
*im in nsw and was in a clinic in the city. you do get counselling at the centre.
I discovered I was pregnant at 18w and had a termination at 20w.
I was in an abusive relationship where he refused to use contraception or allow me to use it, I was preparing to leave and already had 2 small children.
I contacted 'children by choice' (Qld) and they put me in touch with a social worker at the local hospital. I had to undergo a few interviews/counselling sessions etc to ensure I was fully aware of/mentally prepared for the procedure (it involved physically giving birth, which I would be awake for) before it was approved.
I spent the night in hospital and was discharged the next day.
It wasn't a pleasant experience but I don't regret it for a second, I know it was the right choice for me 100%
I'm not sure how to do this but I'd be happy to answer more questions if the OP has any.
I'm sorry if this is difficult for others to read but I hope it helps the OP.
So glad you have come out the other end xxxx
Think about what works for you. There are reasons why termination is a good idea. I had one and i dont regret it. Inly do it if you have good support and get pre and post counselling. Only you know what you are capable of.
Dont do it you will ever never come to terms with it .
I had a missed miscarriage last year. Found out there was no heartbeat at my 12w scan baby measured 11w. I had tablets that iduced misscarriage. When first finding out i was pregnant i was shocked, i had just had a baby and was suffering post natal depression. I thought of abortion but couldn't do it. After a month i started getting use to the idea of another baby so when i fpund out he died i was shattered. Then after seeing my baby that was only 11w old he was fully formed, i cpuld see he was a boy, he had dark spots for eyes, he had arms, legs and even fingers, you could see everyone. So there would be know way after knowing that would you want to kill the baby. Maybe look photos of a 15w baby and see how formed they are. If you still dont want the baby after a few weeks then look into adoption.