How would you feel and is there anything I can do regarding my 4 year old daughter when in her father's care (every 2nd weekend) in regards to walking a few houses down the street with the neighbours kid (in deadend street) with a laneway access? It is a quite low socio-econmic area, lots of unemployed and known for drugs/vreak ins. Walks to from neighbours house with a 6 year old, goes to 6 year olds house plays in paddle pool, trampoline etc don't know how supervised as don't know these people but do know dad just let's her go there alone? The little 6 year old swears a lot in context like "f-off dad you c..." really disturbing and worries 1. My daughter will copy her and 2. What is going on in the house for a 6 year old to speak that Way? I'm highly concerned but dad just tells me I'm wrapping her in cotton wool and there's nothing I can do about it (which is sadly true I feel). Worried mum x
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I would tell him he cant leave child unsupervised, make notes and then go to mediation or court orders. Which is exactly where I am at, this dropkick dad makes the stupidest decisions but theyre always a little different so this time Im telling him not unattended anywhere (new neighbours caravan with adults he doesnt know) and next time will be going official.
Omg! Good luck.
Frustrating isnt it. One time she told me she went on his lap in his friends car. For no reason he just didnt think it was that bad. Makes it so hard
Thank you for your responses. Just to be clear my concern is for her safety. I was not implying that people from low socio economic areas are not good people, I also live in the area and I have great neighbours but there is no way I would leave my child there unsupervised, anywhere where I do not know the person. I have tried to talk to her dad, he thinks I'm being ridiculous. I have rung family liaison officer (we had mediation last year to do a parenting plan that never got finished because he walked out) the mediator still has not called me back it's been 10 days and she is due to go back to her father's this weekend. I do not want to withhold her from her daddy, she loves her daddy and I think father's are really important! I just don't know what to do. The family court system is a joke I do know that, I will just keep expressing my concerns to dad, it's all I can do, extremely frustrating and I know I will be super anxious all weekend about it ????
Make some calls and find out your rights, and then let him know very clearly what he cannot do and what will happen if he cant take care of her. Let him know very clearly its neglect and you will not leave her where she is not supervised as that is you failing her as well. Make it clear youre taking it seriously. A four year old should never be unsupervised. Shes only 4 ffs.