After days of yelling and screaming at my 2 children (5&3) over the smallest things at times I feel like it's all just too much! Im pregnant with my third child and don't know how I'm going to do this. I suffer from anxiety and see a psychologist but no matter how hard I try I always seem to come back to feeling this way after a couple months. I have a great support network and my husband is amazing and helps out so much with the kids but I just feel like I'm on my own and no one else feels this way.
To everyone around me I seem so together and ok but on the inside I'm drowning. I'm exhausted and sleep deprived so I know this is adding to it all.
How do I pull myself out of this rut? My children deserve better but I can't seem to ever be that better version of myself I so long for. I just feel like running away but I know it won't help anything. Maybe I'm just not made out to be the mum I always thought I would be.
Please tell me things get better....
Feeling like it's all too much
Feeling like it's all too much
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You know what I found helped? Doing practical things that would reduce some stress.
If that meant my kid (just one with a load of diagnosis) was never listening so that lead to me loosing my shit, I did something about how to teach him to listen.
If that meant my kid was always getting into shit he shouldn't, I put locks on stuff.
If my kid didn't play with his toys but just through most of them around I decluttered the toys.
He was an incredibly active climber so I organised activities where he could climb and run around to his hearts content. That sometimes meant packing a picnic and setting ourselves up in the local fenced in playground for the day.
It's really hard to do stuff that you need to tell for in the playground.
My anxiety dropped, my kid was happier and the house didn't get trashed because we were out.
It was a commitment and some days I wanted to curl up in a ball but getting out and doing made a big difference.
PS if I had a 5 and 3 yo I'd be exhausted too it is by definition exhausting
Well mate I've felt like this and this morning as I was crying I bed in the middle of the day with no motivation to clean up the house or get tea sorted for the kids I finally admitted.. I am not ok. I'm proud of myself for calling the doctor and I'm in the waiting room right now waiting and I'm not ashamed to say I'm going to ask for some anti depressants. I just need some help to cope.
Big hugs to you mate, you are going to be ok xx