Sisters, please talk to me about children with big age gaps. I find myself at 27 with two beautiful step daughters (6 and 8) who I love as my own, but no biological children. I've always always wanted to be a mum and as I said I love my girls more than life but I think I'll regret if I never get to have a baby. My girls were 3 and 5 when I came into their lives so I've never gotten to do the baby thing and I really would love to. My youngest adores babies and toddlers and has a lovely easy going nature, she desperately wants a little brother or sister and I know she'd be super happy to help out.
But my eight year old is an absolute firecracker. She's high maintenance, defiant, has a lot of anger, boundary pusher, you know the type. Eight going on sixteen. I suspect she's headed for a very turbulent adolescence and as much as we love each other we butt heads all the time. As she gets older I find the thought of having a high maintenance teen and a baby / toddler at the same time to be pretty scary. Her biological mother isn't in the picture and I have them full time, big girl is already so full on that I wonder if I could handle a baby as well.
Does anyone have kids with very large age gaps that could give me some advice? Has anyone had a rebellious teen and a crazy toddler at the same time? I'd really appreciate it, thanks for taking the time to read xx
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Sorry no teens in this house, but I think we always figure it out. Dont overthink it. Its hard and things happen we dont expect. When you feel its time, just go for it.
I grew up in a house of 4 girls! 2 older and two younger (I am the youngest) with the same age gap you're talking about if you had a baby now then another one a year later. And it was great!!!! Still is. I am extremely close with all my sisters even with the big gap.
I think childbirth and having a tiny baby is something you shouldn't miss out on. I say 100% do it. You'll be fine
My brother in law is 10 years younger than his sister they are extremely close.
My husband has a 10 year age gap between himself and his younger brother. He was a very rebellious teen and having the responsibility of looking after his brother actually helped him stay grounded and made him grow up.
I had a huge gap and its fine, i grew up like an only child tho. That does have its benefits :)