Hey sisters!
I'm wondering if anyone here has any advice to help me. I have a family member who I'm sure has depression. He will literally just go to work and then come home and go to bed. We aren't sure if or what he is eating. He won't speak to us, we are lucky to get a one of two word answer from him. It's horrible to watch and we all feel helpless.
Is there anything we can do to help, to make him feel better or even get him to talk to us. There has been an event recently which has affected him more. Even if we don't nevessarily talk to him about that, it would be nice if he would come and have lunch with us or dinner or even just hang out like we used too.
I'm so unsure if I give him space and hope he comes around, or keep trying and asking him over for lunch etc?! HELP!
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Why don't you go to him instead? If he's depressed you won't have any luck getting him out and about ... He won't have the energy or motivation to do anything like that and is probably sitting at home wishing he was dead. Cook something in a crock pot and take dinner to him, just you... Let him know that your there for him no matter what. Dont make a big scene of of it and invite the whole family because he won't want to open up to more than one person at a time.
I have depression and have done for years. I can go weeks and even month avoiding people and just going to work and than looking after my son. The one thing that gets me out of it when im really bad is when my best mate sees me loosing myself and just sends me a text and says he is bringing dinner and needs my advice on something.
He never actually has an issue but he makes sure that he doesn't focus on mine unless I want to. Just this small gesture and knowing that he still cares helps me to improve myself. I also go and see someone and it took me a long time to find a doctor that I connected with. Don't give him too much space but don't push him. offer to get pizza and just relax with him, even if your not talking the company does help. You cant force him to snap out of it or go see someone, all you can do is offer your support and love.
I'm struggling with depression and severe anxiety at the moment .. Although it's s good day today or I wouldn't answer.
Check in frequently
Expect nothing
If he responds... Great, have a chat.. If not... Don't take it personally.
But keep saying hi. And don't be afraid.,, if he feels chatty. To talk about everyday things. I don't want to
Talk about myself endlessly but it's nice to have the chance .
I'm quite suicidal and have both s friend and partner who I have PROMISED I will tell when I feel
That way. I just say I'm having bad thoughts. The fact that I made this promise infuriates me when I'm feeling that way but it's helping because the rational me won't break a promise. When I tell them they simply thank me and obviously they get more vigilant and I resent it... But on good days I'm grateful. No judgment .. I just know they are there