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Perfection does not exist – yet as mothers so many of us are all striving for it. We’re all putting so much pressure on ourselves and placing so much emphasis on the “shoulds”... We should always enjoy motherhood. We should always want to ‘give’ to our kids even when there’s nothing left to give. We should be present and ready to engage, play and be there for our kids 100% of the time. We should...
Do you find your eyes watching other mothers and hear a little voice in your head saying, “She is so, so much better at this whole motherhood thing than me.” I do. All. The. Time. I know we shouldn’t compare. But we do, right? As sad and embarrassing as it is to admit... But why, I wonder? Why do we compare and judge ourselves so much? I mean... I’m a confident, generally self-assured person so...
This is a FAQ post. These are the most popular answers to a real question asked on The Imperfect Mum. A bit of a hard question to put into words. Lately I’m feeling like i’m now just “his wife” and “her mother” – I’m feeling like I’ve lost who I used to be. I used to be a fairly social independant woman and now I feel as though I have somehow been robbed of my independance. I have an 8 month old...
Sometimes we mums are our own worst enemy… I’m beating myself up at the moment, without any help from anyone else! (So talented right?) *rolls eyes* I was catching up with a couple of beautiful mums this morning – we had a bunch of kids between us all who were happily playing in the playground while we spoke. One of the children came up to her mum, with the usual “I’m hungry” complaint, and the...
Stop comparing yourself with others Accept that you are you. You are not your neighbour or a Mother from school. You are YOU. Each and every situation is different. Different combination of personalities, different financial commitments and different family cultures and beliefs. Whenever you find yourself comparing, here are two things to think about: 1) Comparison is a joy thief. 2) People only...
I really didn’t enjoy the baby stage. I loved the ‘idea’ of having a baby. I love the pictures that come to your mind, babies sleeping, cooing and smiling. I look back at photos and i’m filled with love. But… BUT if you asked if I enjoyed that stage. You would be greeted with.. A big resounding NO! I remember sitting on the couch with this new born baby on my lap, completely ALONE, and...
On the Imperfect Mum, we get a lot of questions about sleep. I often take a big breath when reposting these, as we normally end up with a big battle between these two sides, with each side passionately believing they are right and best. Firstly, I want to clear up I am not an expert. I have no degrees or intelligent letters behind my name. Never studied anymore then I’ve wanted to. I’m not a...
Little bit about Catherine: I live in on the South Coast of NSW after living for the first 30 years of my life in “The Shire!” When I married my husband we moved south to where we could afford to buy a home. We have three gorgeous children together our son born in 2001 and our twins born in 2005. I work outside of the home 3 days a week and look after the family the rest of the time. This is a...
Do you ever find your eyes watching other Mother’s and hear a little voice in your head saying… “She is so so much better at this whole motherhood thing than me” -Chances are she has looked at you and thought the same.. I know this, my conscious mind knows this, I’m confident generally self-assured but sometimes I just feel so hopeless at this Motherhood gig. It’s me judging me. It’s like I’m not...
From the moment I conceived my babies guilt set in it grasped hold of me like nothing else. It consumed me and some days I'd almost drown. I still struggle with it. It likes to make a little nest in my belly. Some days are good, and I’m rockin it!!! Then other days are just so hard. I's like I have this little dude sitting on my shoulders saying “The house is a mess! You’re so slack”… “Look at...