Team Imperfect Mum - Kristy and Kelly - About us and the friendship we share

Kelly and I are very different but very the same.  Here is a little insight into us.

I have known Kelly since she was 12. I was 15.

Fast forward through 13 years of party going, teenage stuff, our twenties, boyfriends, marriages…

In 2004 we were both pregnant with our first babies.  At the time that I lost my baby boy Titan, Kelly and I were working together  (We worked together for 10 years)

Kelly came to Titan’s funeral when she was 9months pregnant – which you could imagine was very stressful for her.  I think she felt a lot of guilt, which was very sad for her and her little baby she was carrying.
So Kelly and I’s friendship is a very long and withstanding one.  We are completely aligned in lots of our thinking.  That was the reason I chose her to be the other administrator of I.M.

I.M is an extension of me so I needed someone I trusted with my life.  So she was the perfect person to choose.

I say that we  are very aligned (which we are) but in some ways we are so verydifferent.

Kelly is crazy about God and talks about him like he is her best friend.

And I attend pubs and talk about wine!!  Ha ha….. (Which she then drives me home from, so she’s a good friend to have.  HA HA!!)

I wear makeup.  She wears none.  I like wearing new sparkling things.  Kelly is all natural. I drink wine.  She doesn’t.  She goes to church.  I don’t. I love attention. Kelly hides from it. I swear.  She doesn’t (much I think I have heard her drop the *f bomb* once!)

Yes, she goes to church – however she doesn’t fit that stereotypical “churchy” mould ie.  She doesn’t point her finger or look down her nose, nor does she judge you even if you’re telling her about something you may be ashamed of.

For example – the other day we were chatting on the phone and she was telling me how she read on I.M how people have social sex when they’re not actually a couple (i.e “bonk buddy”)  And she said to me “wow I didn’t realise people did that” *insert giggle* “I’ve learnt something today” *Insert giggle* (she giggles all of the time – it’s very cute)

So not the typical “ohh people shouldn’t do that….” More of a “Wow that’s interesting….”

The point of me telling you that story, is to give you a bit of an insight into Kelly and what type of person she is. I think she is possibly one of the most nonjudgmental people I have ever met.

I do marvel at our friendship and how different, yet the same we are. It’s actually very enriching and wonderful to have a friend that loves me for who I am.  And I love her for who she is. Now, to me, that is a true friendship!

So there you go.  A little insight into us.  ”The Imperfect Mum” Team.

About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

Posted in:  Life Lessons

6 Replies

Kelly De Vries

Aww Kristy! This brought tears to my eyes! :-)

I remember one of the best compliments from you was when I drove you home drunk one night. You looked at me and slurred "if I ever became a Christian, I'd like to be a Christian like yoooou..."

You've taught me SO much and I look forward to many more beautiful memories and world changing conversations!! Thanks for taking the time
to get to know me :-)

Love you loads! xKelly

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh - Well it's true!! XX

Fenella Davidson

what a beautiful inspiring friendship - we don't all have to be the same x

The Imperfect Mum

Thanks Fenella - That's what I believe. XX

kirri white

It's so nice to gain a deeper insight into who you both are and the ties that bind your friendship and community together. What an amazing and blessed friendship. Truly beautiful x

Kelly De Vries

Aww, thanks Kirri! Sometimes we don't chat for ages - but when we do, it's like we've never stopped! I love being in the Imperfect Mum team, so now Kristy HAS to speak with me more - tee he he! xKelly