I need to get something off my chest! – I’m CRANKY!

love it! That’s why your page works Kristy, cause there IS a code of conduct, its not all all over the place…mummas feel safe to post questions, they may never bring up in their mothers groups, or even to their friends and family. Hun there’s always going to be one asshole or several…but the majority love support and get what you provide for us all.x

Your page, your rules. I love the way you positively gear it. Keep up the good work!

I think I too read the post you were referring to, can see how it would “get on your goat” I was tempted to respond but could not be bothered getting into a debate. She was very long winded I think to cover up her moot point. Glad to see you are keeping Your vision of how you want Your page to be here’s to a restful (maybe!) Sunday evening. Cheers xo

Awesome! It’s simple really, if you can’t answer the question in a compassionate way, then don’t answer at all… skip that one and move on to one you can help with in a positive and productive way….

Here here!!! I agree completely. There is too much debate in the media making us parents feel bad and question our decisions. Then we have the Government slowly taking over control of our parenting decisions. Surely on simple old Facebook, we can support eachother and NOT have to debate our personal opinions! Freedom of how we raise our children has been afforded to us – let’s keep it that way!!!

You rock! Mothers everywhere thank you.

Well said Hun! Agree with you 100%

As Mums we feels enough of our guilt about things without other people putting their negative spin on things, I think your culture is to be applauded. I think what you have created is amazing…what a great thing you have done a place where can go and ask for support and know we wont be judged or criticised..good on you xx

Brilliant!!! I absolutely adore your page & I love how it works. I agree with you 100%! I too love to see/hear how other people raise their kids, its just facinating & if it works than go for it!!! Keep up the fantastic work – there is a reason we are all drawn to your page & its the ‘feeling’ we all get from the IM community! x

Love you, love this page, good on you for standing up for what you believe. I joined mothers group for the very same reason, to feel normal, accepted and supported. I got that MOST of the time, but those yucky Mummy wars did come up with one Mum at times and I felt betrayed. My child was/is loved but some people can’t handle difference and need everyone else to make the same choices so they can feel good about theirs. How sad. I love difference and diversity, makes the world an interesting and fun place. Accept other people for who they are, don’t try to change others, this is dis-respectful. We are all capable and competent (well most human beings, doing our best.

I LOVE you page for exactly the reasons you mention above! You do a wonderful job moderating YOUR page! I love being able to help people and at times when I do want to say something contrary to the views of the question your rules allow me to stop, breathe, put my self in someone elses shoes and answer in a positive way all the while making my point heard. Thank you for teaching me empathy! Xo

Ohhh Thanks Asheligh! Beautiful message. It’s so nice to hear that you “feel” what I feel..

Thanks Mrs Bling! -XX

The media love it when there’s a debate it means more viewers etc. So so sad!

Thanks so much Rebecca!

Thanks so much Liz – I love having you here! Thanks for all of your support! XX

Yep! – It is in face very simple! Thanks Jackie XX

Thanks Evelyn, I agree.. Sometimes I’m like geeeeeeez here we go again.. Thansk XX

Thanks Emma! XX

Ohhhhh Misty! – WOW you just brought a tear to my!!!! WOW what a compliment.. You have just made my day. “Thank you for teaching me empathy! Xo”

Thanks Rach. Great post! I agree people like to feel good about their choices hence the reason they like to Push their views.. I too love diversity.. It makes me so happy when I see someone that is so enatly themselves. It’s like they shimmer! XX

I dunno, I’m torn .. Agree it’s about support & information but it depends on your definition of ‘debate’ & also comes down to if difference of opinion is engaged in respectfully & maturely with the expletives, abuse & patronisation. Like ‘life’ really. Fine line between communication & censorship, but that’s me I’m a journalism major so I’m hard-wired to ‘debate’. At the end of the day it’s your show so it’s your call on the line in the sand ..

Thanks Kirin XX

I agree Kylie. Of course people have differing opinions and that’s fine. In fact I love diversity. But it grates on me when other people cramp their views down other peoples necks. Treat people with respect and if you have nothing positive to add just don’t bother.. SIMPLE!

*Applauding* There is enough drama as you say in the media and on TV without more on your FB page. I dont understand why people crave drama I really dont. Good on you for taking a stand hun, this is why your page is loved by so many who are there for the right reasons. Love ya sunshine xx

Well said …… If you ain’t got something positive to say don’t say anything at all!!!! Keep up the fab work

Love This Page and the fact that we can be completly honest in our questions as a result of all the work you have put in to making this a safe, judgement free zone for parents.I don’t understand why some women thrive on putting others down. It seems simple to me , If you have nothing nice or supportive to say than don’t say anything at all.Thank you for all your hard work.

Well said Mumma! It’s comforting knowing you can ask a question or post a comment and know that you will only get reassurance and support from other mums who may or may not agree with you. Too many people are out there scrutinising our every move as mothers, we’ve gotta stick together girls!

We do need to stick together darlin! – Here here!

Thanks Beautiful! .. XX

you are an advocate for mums everywhere!when did it become a competition?im not sure,i certainly dont want to be competitor!

I totally agree with u ‘imperfect mum’ we need to give and show each other love not hate! We need the support of each other to lift ourselves up! We all feel the ‘am I doing enough?’ guilt and there is no need for fellow mums to make us feel like we aren’t doing enough. No need to bring each other down or make us feel like we are not ‘good enough’ ‘not present enough’ ‘not wise enough’ ‘not smart, happy, energetic, etc enough.’ the sooner we embrace each other for who we are and the hardest job in the world that we do, mums will feel like there is a soft place to fall. There is no ‘one right way’ of being a mum…different mums have different lifestyles, different kids, different circumstances….your page is there to embrace and share that, without the need to tear each other down. If people want to debate parenting styles, then they should create their OWN page and do just that, if that’s what makes them feel worthwhile. As u said, that’s NOT why u created your page and good on u for not backing down to the drama. You know your regular s love u for who u are and what u do, so keep doing what you’re doing because it’s definitely working!!!! Loads of love and squishy cuddles XOXO

I don’t think having a “debate” on an issue is such a bad thing it’s when people start to judge others and make unnecessary and hurtful comments that it becomes an issue. If one mum doesn’t agree with another’s point of view it doesn’t hurt to debate/discuss the pros and cons of each situation in a civilised manner but some people don’t seem to be capable of doing this without making hurtful or judgemental remarks. Sadly I have noticed that it is happening again on your page as I am typing this! It is a such a shame as your page is such a great tool for all mums, especially those that may have a question that they are too embarassed to ask. Keep up the great work and don’t let the bad few get you down cause there thousands more of us out there that truly appreciate your work!!

Well said! Being a mum is about learning & sharing, not passing judgement!

My Thoughts EXACTLY!!

Thanks Renee! – I too agree! XX

Ohhhhh Thanks my beautiful! – Yeah some people get such a kick from icky stuff as you said it’s like they crave it – Sad!

What a beautiful message – Thank YOU XX

Thanks darlin – Too True! X

Good for you! This site was your idea and it should be run how you see fit. If others want it to be run differently let them start up there own page and go for it!! It is hard not to take it personally when you are trying to make a difference for yourself and for others and then you recieve knocks for it… but don’t let it get the better of you there are always gonna be people who want to have a winge. Whatever – that’s there problem not yours. I think your awesome for trying to achieve something so positive!!

Ohhh Thanks I got your squishy cuddles! XX

Seriously.. if they don’t like how you run the page, there is always the ‘unlike’ button, click it & piss the hell off!

We all get miffed sometimes

Debate is great, but only if people are willing to engage in a respectful and open manner. Sadly that doesn’t happen all the time. The cliche about not keeping quiet if you don’t have something nice to say is simple but true and I love the way you insist on playing nice, or else!

Ha ha my thoughts EXACTLY!!

So true Lee – sometimes I feel like throwing my hand in the air. But I know 99% of people don’t want the crap, they just want to support and feel supported.. XX

Or else or right.. ha ha, no -with a community this size it’s the only way to go! XX

Well done and if you don’t like it… fuck off!

Yay for you! Parenting is such an individual (family?) thing, with so many variables. Getting other peoples’ opinions can be helpful. Getting other peoples’ judgements … I’m more than capable of judging myself harshly; no real need of someone’s judgement who is hiding behind the faceless interweb, thank you! Keep up the great work!

Agreed!! The reason for the page is to help fellow mothers out,not to debate/put other people down! Kristy and Kelly your both doing a fantastic job and I love your page!!! It has been a godsend to me !! Keep up the fantastic work both of you xx carly