Background and context
The reason for me having to write “a code of conduct” is due to the fact that we have about 350 new Imperfect Mum’s join our sisterhood each week. And not everyone understands our culture, or my vision.
There have been a few instances (like this morning) where you have all pulled people “into line” and I appreciate that.
It now means that I, nor I.M2 do not have to moderate the questions. This has lifted a huge burden of my shoulders not to mention so much less stress, and time.
It was sort of taking over my life, which of course was not good for my health nor my family. So I am now taking care of my children’s mother and my husband’s wife. They need me….
I am also blessed to have Kelly Dee ( I.M2) join our sisterhood in an official way – Kelly helps me to re-post questions and also donates allotments of time which allows me to completely relax.
Unfortunately in our society not all people have a good network round them. Our ‘old style” village no longer exists . I wanted to create a space where people could feel safe to ask all sorts of questions – Judgement free. People message the page or write on the wall and I re-post.
Some questions may sound “out there” or ”Silly” to some but who are we to judge. We have all been in situations in our lives we are not proud of or may not want to share with anyone for fear of being judged. So the imperfect mum facebook is especially designed for that very reason.
As they say “you cannot know someone or judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes”
This is place where all woman are accepted and encouraged to be the best they could possibly be. “Judgement Free”.
Our behaviour within this sisterhood can contribute positively to creating a beautiful and harmonious community in which we can all be inspired. However, when behaviour is inappropriate or dysfunctional it can have serious implications on us all.
This applies to all Imperfect Mum’s and relates to the behaviour of our community towards each other. Our sisterhood commits to encouraging a safe, supportive and and non-judgemental advice and environment.
Equality and Justice
People are to be treated fairly. In a just community all people should be treated with Respect. Respect that empowers others.
Respect on the basis of which individuals become members of our community and accept their social responsibilities to behave with integrity.
For example, dealing with disagreements by reasonable manner rather than by using language (word and tone) that have the effect of attacking or demeaning the questioner.
I will uphold this culture. No-one will be put down or made to feel inadequate on our page.
I would like to finish with a picture.. The picture that I imagine.. I like to think of us all sitting around a camp fire. Sharing advice, love light and laughter.. This is an image that comes to my mind often..
You are all my friends, sure I have not met you, but I do care about you, and I thank you for trusting in this page and in this culture..